2007-05-29 02:49:36 · 19 answers · asked by saosaoy56 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when i got married - my husband and i agreed to never go to bed angry - so we always made up before bedtime - granted - we have never had a big fight - but we do argue on occasion. been working for us for 18 yrs now. !!
2007-05-29 03:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by lambchop09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't argued with my boyfriend yet...we have had disagreements and have worked through them. But, with my ex....it depended on the issue and the offense. It went on over years, because the issues continued and were compounded by other things. It got really bad for a while and the issues were very serious. The thing was, he would not want to compromise, he would not want to take responsibility for the issues that he was responsible for, and he didn't want to seek help or work things out. It takes two wanting to work through things, to work through things.
Arguing is healthy, believe it or not. I'm not talking about heated arguments, but ones that you have to discuss and compromise. If you don't---resentment and avoidance will happen.
Remember, its better to pick your battles...not be grumpy to the other because you are in a bad mood, and try to listen to the other--your point might not be as valid as theirs, or all that big of a deal (not to say that they are this way...but I have seen fights over really REALLY stupid things.)
2007-05-29 10:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually we'll fight for a couple of hours and make up or just drop the issue and it eventually will come back in a few days. Once we fought and didn't speak to each other for almost a week. that was the longest fight we've ever had.
2007-05-29 09:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by M n M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a good marriage people need to learn how to argue and how to avoid fights.
The best way (this is also proven) is to get completely naked and try to work out your differences. It's HARD to do!! Another suggestion is "never go to bed mad".
Sometimes you just have to "eat your way out" of an argument. lol
2007-05-29 10:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always get our arguments over by the end of the night. It generally will last a couple of hours though. It's a good thing that we don't argue very often.
2007-05-29 09:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by Amy_S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't fight with my spouse. We discuss things, we compromise, and we sometimes agree to disagree.
Never, at any time, have we ever raised our voices at each other.
2007-05-29 09:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation. The most serious fight kept us from talking for about two weeks and that's not healthy when you're married.
2007-05-29 09:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by DJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One saying - "never let the sun go down on an argument"
2007-05-29 09:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by renclrk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regarding my ex, it took us about 3weeks to make up. because we are both stubborn, and hate apologizing first. So he finally got the courage to say he was sorry.so sweet, but I eventually left him. He just wasn't the one.
2007-05-29 09:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by Secret S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the gravity of offense
2007-05-29 09:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by exo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋