Mine was a arranged marriage and there was lot of horoscope issue so was forced to marry a girl who i dint like(looks wise) very much..So i was worried very much to know wheather i done any thing wrong.But to my surprise i found that she had a very good character and veryyy loving nature and bit over possesive(thats ok with me).i am every thing to her.Some time i used to think if i married more pretty girl it would be better, but some time i think if she is pretty and not having a nice character or not loving my life will go for a toss.What you people say my decision was right or not,Thanks in advance for your beautiful answers.
2007-05-29 02:12:52 · 21 answers · asked by vipu s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hallo my friend, I can only tell you my opinion.
Handsomeness and prettiness vanish with the time; a good character and a loving heart stays forever.
We all grow older and although there are many people trying to stop the natural process of getting mature by plastic operations, etc, the result is mostly absolutely pathetic. Women who can’t accept that they are not 20 or 30 years anymore and try to have an teenager aspect look sincerely pathetic.
Well, what I like to say is, that of course, all of us want to be somehow good looking, but most of us are simply average persons.
I don’t think that you would describe your wife as physically ugly; she simply isn’t a Barbie doll.
Having a loving heart is the most important thing in live, because imagine yourself, being married to a woman with a perfect body and face and find out, that she has a bad and egoistic character, is a stressing and cold hearted person and does not care about anything else than her personal wellness... wouldn’t you feel miserable?
Anyway, let me tell you this, all average women can look pretty, sometimes just simple things like a nice haircut and style, clothes and colours that go better with their body, a little make-up, etc make a great change.
There is no ugly woman on earth, just egoist men eyes who are blended by ridiculous female beauty codes....
2007-05-29 03:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a strong believer that looks are temporary but character is permanent. It is up to you to decide whether you did the right thing or not. Ask yourself whether you are happy in the marriage or not - don't think about other people's judgments of you or your wife. If you are satisfied - and I would probably be with a loving and caring wife - then yes, it was the correct decision. I wish you all happiness in your married life!
2007-05-29 09:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by rij85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very good character and very loving nature, these are the first & most important thing any man looks for in a wife. As far beauty is concerned how you define it, its only for eyes to see but the character & loving nature your heart & brain to judge. Best of luck man you are one of the most lucky person to have such a beautiful wife in the world I'll say so !
2007-05-29 09:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont undertand why you're so worried.
Looks arent evrything, its the inner beauty that counts.... i'm glad you learnt that.
I think it's really sweet that you appreciate her for the little things she does. Even though I am totally against arranged marriages I feel like you two will do well together. Jut give it a try. But if you still feel uncomfortable you better give up, there's no point in ruining her life as well.
Good Luck!
2007-05-29 09:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lynne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are telling us how perfect she is in one statement then you think the grass may have been greener on the other side if her looks were different?
Many a guy would love to have someone that Beautiful inside, as sometime the beauty can only be skin deep, and what if your other dream woman would not have the fine characteristics, your present lady does have ??
It's your choice would you still be happy??
Congatulations!!
I believe she's a Keeper
2007-05-29 09:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by mes210 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
I think you have been a gem in taking this decision. There are so many people out there who face prejudices because of their appearances, even though they might have hearts of gold. It is how, I believe God rectifies the situation...by rewarding one's good nature, and opening the other to true love and sincere affection. I wish you both a very happy married life.
2007-05-29 09:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by iswaryam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks aren`t everything,you could marry a really beautiful woman and get treated like ****, character means so much more then a pretty face, if she loves you and you are everything to her there`s nothing that can compare to that, not even looks.
2007-05-29 09:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Goth Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you were forced into marriage. That is a terrible thing. But character is more important than anything else so it looks as though you are lucky and the marriage arrangers chose well for you.
Good luck to both of you for a long and happy marriage.
2007-05-29 09:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by happy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For Marriage one needs to look for Beauty skin deep!!
All looks and exterior beauties exist for how long next 5-10years dats it!! And in marriage you are looking at sharing and living together for the rest of your life. Beauty that is skin deep never decreases as age increases rather it increases.
So choice is yours of which type of Beauty you would choose one that vanishes with time or the one that grows and glows with time??
2007-05-29 15:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should marry with her as looks doesn't , I know sometimes looks matter but not always just think about her good character , loving nature , as she supports u becoz of her kind nature 2wards u as u can't find any better girl like her.I hope u understand me & don't hurt her .U know 1 famous saying or quote
"Chirag leke bhi dhoondo ge tab nahi milega"
2007-05-29 10:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by komal b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋