My GF went out on a girls night out and did'nt come back untill 5 in the morning. When i asked about her night out she stayed at this bar all night and the bar staff bought her and her friend drinks all night. I was a little pissed off but trusted her.
2 weeks later she went there again with her GFs and stayed untill 5 o'clock in the morning.
Then we happended to walk past one afternoon and i surgested we go for lunch there and see her secert boyfirend in a jokeing way. She went the brightest red i have ever seen and refused to go and lots of nervous laughing.
Oviously i went mad and because she was hidding somthing, she explained it was because she embaressed her self and mad fool out her self because she was so drunk, not because of anything else.
I have questioned her several times and she denies doing anything.
I dont know to beleave her or not!!!!!
We are living together with friends and about to move in on our own shall i confront her again.
2007-05-29 00:16:14 · 27 answers · asked by AJ21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I doubt it, sounds like she got drunk to me and made a holy show of herself. If she was in by 5am, the likelyhood is that she was in the bar, not in a bed. Done it myself plenty of times, women don't go out prowling for sex anyhow if we are happy with him indoors. We leave that to you men.
2007-05-29 04:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..... Sorry friend but there are a lot of red flags here.
1st. The average guy buys a woman drinks because they want to get layed. So the "free drink" story is worrisome.
2nd. Coming home at 5am! Jeez this is bad.
3rd Coming home again at 5am! Jeez this is double bad!!
4th. Turning bright red is what poker players call a "Tell".
5th. She is NOT acting like a woman in a comitted relationship.
6th. A woman that cheats NEVER admits she is cheating. NEVER! You will NOT get the truth by asking her.
I suspect she is cheating but I would want proof. Spend a couple hundred of bucks to have a private investigator follow her to this bar and watch her. I think moving in with her could be a HUGE mistake. Better to find out the truth now and limit your losses. My rule with woman is they must be a "Caesar's wife". That is above suspician (a line from a Shakespeare play). Your suspicians are justified. Arrange for an weekend "business trip" and let het know a week in advance... Then see if she takes the bait... If you want to skip the P.I. and just dump her this is fine as well. She is acting like a single woman....which is a huge red flag....
2007-05-29 00:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by Felix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, sit down while you read this.
I am sorry to say, but your girlfriend has been two-timing you. That's very suspicious behavior, and it's obvious she has a guilty conscience after hearing her reaction about that "secret boyfriend" comment. Don't expect her to actually TELL you that she has been having an affair, it's not something that anyone would openly admit to.
Honestly, I am wondering what on Earth are you doing letting your girlfriend go out to bars with friends until 5 AM, getting drunk until she develops a reputation for it. Do you even know her female friends? Do they seem like that type that you would trust?
If she didn't pay for her drinks, why would the bar staff give them to her? This sounds to me as if guys were buying drinks for her to try to get in her pants. Confront her one last time and try to see if she's lying. Look at her body posture and figure out what's going through her mind. Good luck.
2007-05-29 00:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by minerva779 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"TRUST" is the base for a good and healthy relationship, if for some reason one or both partners don't trust the other one...then what kind of relationship is that?!! It is horrible and is not doing anything good to your health to keep thinking in the "What if...?" , it's a feeling that will eat you completely and will drive you insane. Just ask her again, but before you do that, think on what you'll do after she answers...if she says NO she didn't cheat...will you believe her and forget the whole thing? , if she says YES, she did...will you forgive her or will you leave her and move on?? whatever your decision may be, just remember that if you don't trust her is better to walk away from a relationship like that.
2007-05-29 00:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this 'girls night out' thing something that just started? If so, then perhaps it's time to have a long conversation with your girlfriend. Most bars/clubs that I know of, close down around 3 am. There may be different laws, but that is the time where I live. So definitely check that out. Also, if she goes out and goes to the same bar, she obviously wasn't embarrassed enough. Then you have all rights to get suspicious. Turning red and refusing to go in...that just sounds fishy to me.
2007-05-29 00:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by traceylenore 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's unlikely that she will confess to you if she hasn't already!
It's down to you whether you're going to let it ruin what you have with her. If you are going to keep telling yourself 'she might of cheated' then you're going to go a bit nuts and end up being suspicious of everything she does. And if she hasn't done anything the she'll get tired of the accusations as well. If you can honestly say you trust her then stay with her and move in as planned, but only if you can let it lie.
Did she ever tell you what her embarrassing story was? Maybe you should find out if not.
2007-05-29 00:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Libby F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So the all nighter thing is now becoming a trend instead of an occasional night! Not looking good for you. Whether she is cheating or not, you need to be questioning her motives for not wanting to be with you all night instead of her girlfriends. Trust is an important issue in a relationship. If you already do not trust her, then don't move in with her.
2007-05-29 00:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off if you two are a couple there should not be anyone going out to a bar... that is looking for trouble to begin with. If she didn't want to go in the bar with you, of course she is up to something. Maybe she is afraid that the guy she was with will see you two together. I would defiantly confront her and insist that she go to the bar with me.
2007-05-29 00:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by brat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh Hell yes she cheated on you. You live together and she stayed at a bar twice until 5:00AM and refused to go in their with you? SHE DIDNT WANT THE TWO OF YOU TO MEET. Dump her and move on. Move out and get a place with friends if you cant afford your own and FORGET ABOUT HER.
2007-05-29 00:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Cycleogical 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sort this one way or another before you move in together. You need to sit down with her & tell her exactly how you feel - but dont do it in a confrontational or in an accusing way. Tell her that you would rather not like the truth than be lied to - if she promises you that nothing has happened, you need to decide if you believe her or not - if you do - you have to put it behind you otherwise it will ruin your relationship.
Believe me - i know!
2007-05-29 00:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by MinibabeUK73 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋