i am a virgin?

Question

i am a virgin and my bf is not,he had more than a gf ad he even slept with hokers,i am afraid to have sex for him,cuz i am not experienced and i am afraid that he wont like me in bed and he will dumb me after we do it,wt should i do?
something else i forget to say,we r dating for 3 weeks now and i did not tell him i am a virgin yet,what is the best time to tell him?

i am not too young i am 22?
he might have stds should i ask him first or what?

after i get married?i do not want to look old fashion or conservative especially that he is liberal.

preserve my virginty??
i do not want to be like the guy in this movie who was a 40 yrs old virgin,beside my friends make fun of me cuz i am a virgin.

Answer 1

Gee, only three weeks and you're thinking of sleeping with him? And after you know he has that kind of past? You're really going out on a limb here. I don't think you have to worry about him not liking you though. Just a suggestion, you should probably move on and find someone who's less "experienced." Good night!

A few comments on your comments:

"i am not too young i am 22?
he might have stds should i ask him first or what?"

You're not too young. It's just that you barely know this guy and you're wanting to sleep with him. Also, don't ask him if he has STD's. He won't know unless it's something obvious. He needs to get tested, and you do too. When the relationship gets to that point.

"after i get married?i do not want to look old fashion or conservative especially that he is liberal."

First of all, don't worry about how you come off to this guy. Your views don't have to match his, because you don't have to settle for him if you don't want to. Don't compromise your values for the sake of having a boyfriend, especially one like this one.

"preserve my virginty??
i do not want to be like the guy in this movie who was a 40 yrs old virgin,beside my friends make fun of me cuz i am a virgin."

I think I know what you mean. I'm a 22 year old virgin. Really, you're not that old. Definitely start dating, but don't think you have to lose it with the first guy you see. Women don't have as much trouble with this issue as men do. You see, if a woman wants to have sex and isn't strange looking, she can find a willing man fairly easily. It's significantly more difficult for most men to find women who want to sleep with them. As for your friends making fun of you, I must say that it's only come up between me and a couple of classmates a couple of times. Other people really don't care that much, it seems.

I'm not going to say that you should save yourself for marriage. Sure, it's a good idea. But a lot of people just can't handle the wait. I would rather people just save sex for long term relationships than ignore all such advice just so they don't seem "old fashioned." As for me, I'm expecting to save it for marriage. If I don't, I think I will definitely lose my virginity in a committed relationship. Good night!

Answer 2

girl it deffinatly does not soung good for you. what are you doimg with a guy like this. there is nothing wrong with being a virgin.....im not but iv found the one that im gunna marry. dont be afraid that he wont like you...be afraid that youve made the right chose to have your first time with. in my opinon...he doesnt sound worth. find some one that will love you for you....wether you are a virgin or not. he oviously is not very intelligent if he has slept around with hookers. sorry to say but thats for the low class. mwh

Answer 3

After three weeks of dating I would not being worried about having sex with him, if he keeps pestering you for sex he is not the guy you want, if he does not then after a few more weeks try telling him your scared as you have never had sex before and tell him that when YOU decide you want to have sex you would like him to be understanding and make it easy for you.

Answer 4

It sounds like you are young. Probably to young to be having sex. Also if you have been seeing each other only 3 weeks, that's way too soon to be having sex with someone. And if he say been with hookers he might have an STD.

Answer 5

Relax you are not obliged to do sex with every boy you date. Besides you know him only 3 weeks. Will you give your dog to sb who you know for only 3 weeks? Why you should give him your body and your heart ? Think about it . If he loves you he will understand your fears and help you the first time. Good luck !!!!

Answer 6

Well girl, if i were you i will not give my virginity to this guy
after all you just meet him for 3 weeks its not worthy.
So what if your virgin. instead you have to be proud of it
that nobody touches you ever.
and no need to be ashamed because you dont know
anything in bed. if you really feel hot it comes directly
no need for tutor and you said also that he is
experienced so that means he will drive you.
whats the problem with that.
But if i were you preserve your virginity.

Answer 7

don't sleep with him if u r virgin after 3 weeks i only let him kiss only a cheek .. and about the telling that u r virgin u tell him when he will want u in bed and if he dump u he is the stupidest guy in the world..

Answer 8

then dont sleep with him. You plan on giving yourself up after only three weeks of knowing him whos to say you can truely trust this guy?

Answer 9

You're wanting to be with a guy that's been with hookers?
Time to look around some more unless you want this guy to give you aids sometime.

Answer 10

Can i ask you? Do you love someone for sex?? If you do, you're not thinking properly. I suggest you keep your viringity until you're married and you should not force yourself to do it. but if he still insist you on doing it, better leave him