Do you have any advice/TIPS for someone having sex for the first time?

Question

I posted this already but people stopped responding!

I am a 20 yr old virgin. I thought I wanted to wait until my wedding night to have sex, but I feel that I am ready now. Although my boyfriend knows that I am a virgin, I think that because I am 20, he would expect more from me than he would a younger virgin. He is very experienced, so I don't want to disappoint him. What are some things I can do to make it more interesting(not sluttish, but interesting)? I just don't want to seem childish or naive.

**Ladies, although I know I'm not quite ready for this yet I still want to know. What do you do on top or when you are totally in control? Were you nervous the first time you had complete control?

Please be as detailed as possible. I know I'm ready, I just don't know what to do. I do NOT want to just lay while he does everything because that will make everything awkward.

Please don't laugh at me, lol, just help! Thanks!

To reference a previous reply, we haven't shared alot of intimate things. I did not want to tease him.

Answer 1

its the first time right.. why do u need to "make it more interesting"? its already pretty interesting in itself.. ur boyfriend will be thrilled that u want to give yourself to him, especially if previously u wanted to wait for marriage!
plus hes a man, he will enjoy sex no matter what. yeah dont just lie on ur back like a corpse, but touch him, kiss him, make sounds etc to show ur enjoying it, it might hurt a little bit the first time but since ur already 20, ur body would be mature enough for sex; it will not hurt quite as much as it would hurt a younger girl.
also its hard to give pointers cos u have not mentioned what intimate things u already shared together.. u could try seducing him, strip for him or something, touch him everywhere, lick or kiss also.. after he gets all turned on he wont mind taking the lead at all!

as for beign on top, no i was not nervous, actually my first time was like that; cos i wanted control over how far it goes in etc, just in case it would hurt me. so all u gotta do is move up and down, or grind against him a bit, whatever feels good.. if he wants u to change how u move, or change the pace, since he's experienced enough, he wont be shy about telling u.

pls just try relaxing, be happy he knows what hes doing even if u dont :) dont think if it as awkward, because its not :) just go with the flow, dont overthink it.. and everything will just fall into place on its own eventually

Answer 2

Hmmm... detailed?well first I would let my bf do everything in the beginning [since he is so experienced] because if I were to know all there is, he might become suspicious and think I've already done it before. For some reason, some men like virgin girls.. so yeah. Also, don't worry, you won't JUST LAY THERE, shift positions accordingly, don't talk too much, don't move too much [like THE WHOLE TIME???], and let your partner know that he's doing it JUUUUUUUUST RIGHT ;P [feed to his pride since he's experienced right?].
And if you feel like you don't have that extra push to do this thing, have a little drink or two [not beer, wine ;)] and let the drowsiness effect help you. =)

The first time I had sex, I let my partner do everything first, and as I got in rhythm, I guess I just used my human instincts, which I never knew I had. They just come to you like RAWR!

But hey you're 20 already right? Why not wait till wedding night? You're partner had already had multiple sex encounters [before marriage?] and will more likely do so again. Just be careful, if he really does love you, he'll wait. Tame him :P and ooooh i think he can't wait till wedding night comes XD.

Answer 3

Ok, you said details. Here goes.... When you're on top, don't be on your knees (u can 4 a little while) but try having your feet on the floor and bounce. Your legs will hurt eventually but you and he will both love it!! Change positions a lot. Then you will discover what makes you feel the best. No matter what position you are in, throw it back at him. You don't have to be still. If you move towards him, even grab him and shove him your way, HE WILL Love IT!

Good luck!

Answer 4

let him take the lead until you feel comfortble.
react to him
let him know what feels good or bad to you
don't ACT Moaning excessively and screaming YES YES YES in his ear is just crazy
just do what comes naturally like rubbing and touching
and use a lubricant like KY
If he loves you you won't disappoint him
don't expect your first time to be moviescreen amazing
everything gets better with practice : )

Answer 5

i think your best options is to just relax. its a big decision no matter what age you are. being nervous is what comes with the first time. im sure he is not going to be worrying about your experience. its a beautiful moment that will mean alot to the both of you, the best thing is to just have fun.

Answer 6

Just tell your man that it's his day today, You will do exactly what he tells you to do, no matter what.
Thereafter, simply surrender yourself.
For whichever of his instructions you can't understand ask him to explain in words while you keep playing the previous step.

Don't think too much or you will spoil your party

Answer 7

The 2 most basic things you need to know.

1. Do what feels good for you.
2. Do what feels good for him.

You'll know.

Answer 8

My advise is let your partner control the situation first. Don't worry everything comes naturally.

Answer 9

I answered your last post concerning this, but I was just wondering if you ever got a good answer yet? And what is it eactly did YOU have in mind?

Answer 10

Have a drink or two. Relax. If it happens it happens. The utmost is to be comfortable with yourself and with your partner.

That is all i can really say.