What do you think of teenage mums?

Question

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Do you actualy know any to base your judgment on?

Answer 1

Some are really good mothers and some arent. I am fine when a mother decides to keep her baby instead of aborting it just because she was careless. I dont like it when these teenagers think its cool to have a baby and try to get pregnant. Some dont want to give there lifestyle up and be a 24/7 mommy. I know several teenage mothers. My brothers gf was 17 and shes now 19 and shes a great mom and takes care of the baby on her own. I am 22 and I have a 3 month old daughter with my husband and I love being a mommy. But my husband is 33 and has a good job which allows me to stay at home with the baby.But I also have a 16 year old cousin that has a 6 week old and she doent stay home. Shes on drugs real bad and her mother takes care of the baby. I dont believe teenagers should get pregnnat on purpose but if it happens they can be good moms. age has little to do with it. I have seen 16 year olds that are just as good mothers as 30 year olds just with little money but they love there child,

Answer 2

I was a teenaged mom. I am a good person and a loving mother. Being a mom is what I was born to do. I still managed to go to college get a degree. We got married and have now been dating/ married for over 7 years. We just found out we are pregnant with our fifth and sixth children. My husband passed his bar exam last year on the very first try and is now a practicing attorney. We are happy, healthy and financially stable. We don’t rely on relatives or the government to pay for anything, and I am fortunate that we can afford for me to be a stay at home mom. Things have worked out wonderfully for us. Better than I ever would have imagined.

Despite all of that, I was very stupid to start as young as I did. I love my kids and my husband, but school and life would have been much easier on both of us if we had waited at least another two years. It has been very, very hard at times. I also must say our situation is unique. My friends who had children as teenagers all ended up as single moms…many never finishing high school let alone college.

Answer 3

i was reading a post on here from a girl who was like 15 and pregnant and i got to thinking how insanely absurd it is for someone to be a mother at that age. that age is all about rebellion and pushing the rules then all of the sudden this person is supposed to be the rule maker! i know several teenage moms including family members some with grown children. i have to say they always seem to have a harder time and really seem to struggle with the loss of there teenage years. some have managed to do ok and raise functional children. but most end up either resenting the child or acting like a teenager latter in life going out all days of the week partying trying to be friends with there kids buying them alcohol etc. I'm assuming that you are a teenager who is either a mom, pregnant or thinking about becoming pregnant. the few teenage moms i know that have good well rounded children and are mature adults them selves have had a very supportive families. of course if you are a teenager you have no means for providing for your child so you need allot of help. of course I'm not talking about 18 and 19 yearolds with jobs etc although it is harder for them as well.

Answer 4

Some think that teenage moms don't have the maturity and experience to raise a child. Sometimes they are correct. But in rare cases, there are teenage mothers who take good care of their baby like any adult mother does. This is because of the influence they get from their own mothers and the way they were brought up. I have a cousin who married very young and gave birth to a daughter. Everyone in the family thought that she'd be reneging on her responsibility because of her age but, to everyone's amazement, she proved all of us wrong. In fact, she did things that even I could not have done myself. She was so meticulous with the baby's cleanliness that she took pains cleaning every inch and nook of the baby's body (a girl) including the private part which she said was more delicate and prone to germs. She used a small cotton bud to pluck out a white, sticky substance that she said , if not removed would give a bad odor to her baby's private part.

Answer 5

I was a teenage mom. It was hard, my mom and dad had to help me finical. Which was not fair to them. I lived with my mom and we didn't have much money to begin with. And other then that. The guy that is the father is so dead beat. And that is not fair to the child.

I as a teenager did not make good judgment and that is why I think teens should not be moms. There is more abuse with kids born to teenage moms and there learning is sometimes behind the rest of the kids. I'm not saying this is all teenage moms but the satistic are there. And I hate being a satistic.

Answer 6

i am a teenage mom i had my daughter at 19 that how old i am now im married my baby is 3 months now and it a common thing i think the satitic on teen mom is like 90 percet of teen mom have 1 baby before they are 20 80 are 15 yearold and lower then 10 percent is 13 so i love being a mom it the best thing in the world

Answer 7

can't say I think too much about it. I don't know any these days. Until I was 17 though I thought having kids at 16 or 17 was normal. Then I found out NO it was just my cousins LOl. They all turned out okay. Didn't end up staying with the fathers for good reasons but are happily married to other guys now and very happy

Answer 8

Oh, very sad. Very very sad. I think it would be very tough for her and the family. I dont think they are old enough to deal with the in-laws. Also, not seen enough to have the experiences of motherhood. Nowadays, there are so many things in life to enjoy for teenagers that makes alot of adults still cling to them like kids. It would make the teenage mum very deprived. Most girls are just starting to work after graduation from the U at their twenties and starting to enjoy the better things in life which they can afford now. Yes, I have known many of them during my teenage days. Those were the days of the A-go-go parties and olot girls dropped out of school during that time. The only consolation is that my cousin is already enjoying life at 48 because her son is already and has a son of his own.

Answer 9

I was raped at 16 and had my daughter at 17. It was very hard because I also workes 40 hrs. a week to make ends meet. Because I was raped the government helped me get my own place, but I had to pay all the bills. Teenage mothers CAN be good, it's just that alot of them don't feel like being one. My daughter is 5 now, and people tell me all the time how well behaved she is.

Answer 10

I think a lot of times they are young and inexperianced. However, I do not pass judgement on them. I think those of us who are older Moms can help our teenage mothers become better stronger parents. We do that by encouraging. Not necessialy point out thier bad points, but when they are having a hard time, try to help them and encourage them and let them know that though they made a mistake, it is ok and we want to help them through.

The biggest issue here is whether or not they will want the help. Most teenagers feel they are grown up enough to handle things.

I commend mothers who help thier teenage daughters raise thier chidren in a non-threating way. I know teenage parents that are doing it on thier on and they don't have a clue. I also know teenage parents who do very well at it, but you can tell they are tired and worn to a frazzle.