She said she talks about serious stuffs (she tells me that she is talking with X so i know that she is)
Those guys are not even friends or anything just people she met in chat rooms (i trust her but not the guys intentions)
But i'm a bit angry by the facts that I am far away from her at the moment and that I only get to meet her 1 to 3h a day on msn when she is at her parents place (4 days in the week).
I always close all other chats when she is on.
Maybe im just jealous :(
2007-05-28 19:01:37 · 15 answers · asked by theonoshi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PS: We are on a (short) long distance relation ship but only 1 month left
2007-05-28 19:12:25 · update #1
Its ok even if it is just jealously, Its still a valid emotion... But you have to tell her communication is the key, if she doesnt know how it makes you feel then she doesnt know to stop it.
2007-05-28 19:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by Cassandra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-23 01:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel but it indeed is just jealousy. You're overreacting a bit. Friends and boyfriends are very different. And I think it's better they're just guys she met in a chat room because long distance relationships dont work, especially if she has you there with her. She is just chatting out of boredom or maybe she has met someone who gives good advice or has had a lot of experience with a problem she has and she just likes chatting with them. I wouldnt worry about it at all but if this doesnt soothe you then you should talk to her about it. Talk to her about how you feel about it, dont accuse her or tell her to stop. If you discuss your feelings then she will probably do her best to make you feel better. Perhaps you should ask her for an hour on the phone just to yourself everyday so that you can talk to her and know she isnt distracted by other windows or chats. Well good luck =]
2007-05-28 19:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm . . . I think chat is a good way to communicate, but not a good way to have conversations. People get distracted, there are times when you wonder if the other person is even going to reply to your comment(s), and most importantly you miss all of the nonverbal cues you would get if you were talking to them in person. Now then, I do think it is kinda rude of her to talk to that other guy when you're on. It doesn't matter about his intentions, because he isn't going to get anywhere without her cooperation . . . but you never know what she's thinking. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it if I were you, but I would keep talking to other girls to try to find one that would be more considerate.
I'm really curious . . . what kind of serious stuff does she talk to those guys about? Ask her that next time you see her. But make sure you do it in person and pay attention to how she acts when you ask. Don't press too hard for an answer; just be cool. If she refuses to tell you or something, then you know what kind of girlfriend you have . . . at best one that doesn't trust you, and at worst one who's looking for your replacement. Good night!
2007-05-28 19:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself, "is it worth it?" You have two choices. You can continue to worry about her and other guys and maybe you'll break up or maybe you won't. But you're guaranteed the misery of being jealous throughout the time you're with this girl.
Alternatively, you can CHOOSE not to worry, not to be jealous. If she loves you, she will always choose you. Maybe she will complain that you are not giving her as much attention, but you have to realize that if her happiness comes at your expense, it's a poisonous relationship. You shouldn't feel too bad about it ending.
In a perfect relationship, neither partner gets jealous because both partners are confident in each other's faithfulness.
2007-05-28 19:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Karoline M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man the cell phone and chat room generation,whoa.They said some crazy rips about my generation. your on 1-3 hrs a day, ya sounds like you have a standard 16-25yr old is it going other places,you ether trust her or you don't..people tend to project their feelings at the one they car about, trust yourself and you trust her.
2007-05-28 19:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by DR DEAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are jealous because you want her to share all that stuff with YOU! ...... and she should.
I think she is being very disrespectful... but make sure she knows you feel this way. Then see what happens.
I, too, close all other chats. I think it's just proper and kind to whomever you are chatting with.
2007-05-28 19:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it somewhat is rude and that i could tell her which you will like her finished interest and if she will't supply it to you, then you definately'll come returned later. If she does not care, she's in all probability not the female for you.
2016-10-30 01:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is nothing wrong when your girlfriend talks with other guys. Everyone needs some privacy. You don't have to be jealous about this at all.
2007-05-28 19:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by nimesh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd probably be upset too. tell her that.
guys and girls can't just be friends. you know at least one of them has bad intentions. she needs to have her priorities in line. she can talk to other people, but if it's taking away from her little time with you, it's not fair
2007-05-28 19:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by :-D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋