my daughters being raise by my ex sister in law (not by my choice)i just want to no if i should stay out of her life i dont want her confused their great to her and can give her more then i ever could i just dont no whats best is their any one who can help
2007-05-28 18:49:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My father raised me. my mother couldint care for me.
Still be a part of her life, just be honest if and when she asks why you didint raise her. one day, shell understand.
I know i did. :)
i know your hurting,but your doing the right thing.
2007-05-28 18:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should come around as much as possible because NOTHING can take the place of a real blood parent. You may think that you are doing the right thing, but trust me when I say that I didn't have my father in my life and it effected me. I choose the wrong type of men because I didn't have my dad in my life to tell me what a real man is. Show her you care and that you at least think about her. Have talks with her often about why you feel that this is the best living arrangement so you doesn't feel neglected. Good luck!
2007-05-29 01:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by chocolatebabycakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not all together and cannot show this child a good role model than it would be the best thing to stay away.
Sure it hurts, and I am sorry for this.
If you are not in the position to provide properly for this child I think you should keep your distance.
It is always best to have the parent there, so the child does not have abandonment issues, but you need to work on yourself in order to do that.
It is your choice as to whether you want to grow up or not.
2007-05-29 02:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by sli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should always be a part of your child's life. They may not understand now all that is going on, but if you just walk away they will resent you for it. Being even just a little part, seeing them when you can, doing what you can for them, but helping them to understand as they get older that they are being raise by someone else is for the best, will help ensure that after they are grown you can still have a relationship with them.
2007-05-29 01:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Myriah_Tx2Oh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father left me when I was young and I'm still mad at him for it. He did it for the right reasons, (and I'm thankful for it) My father was a drug addict and thought it best he not be around, but once he was clean he never came back. I love the man who raised me (along with my mother) but I still would have liked to have my real father and his family. but I have no sense of family. I have no idea where I come from, or what (his) is family all about. I'm 23 and haven't seen or heard from my father in 8 years. It hurts to think he could walk away so easy. I have 2 babies of my own and I could never leave them. If you absolutely have no way of supporting then leave her were she is, but be there! You can still be apart of her life without being there everyday. It takes more effort but the long run its better then having her think you didn't want her. To this day I wonder if my day did what was best for me or him.
2007-05-29 02:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by L PATTREASON 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not ok. U are the one that had the baby the baby needs to know u. U need to be nice to ur child and take care of it. Why have a baby and not even take care of it urself?! Im sure that u can handle it well. Dont just walk out. Walk back in and take care of ur baby.
2007-05-29 01:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by Famous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child will always wonder about her mother. Even if your presence is minimal and not always positive, you should be there.
She needs to know her history, where she came from, without that - she will always have questions. Why make her wonder who you were or who she is?
If any of that makes any sence to anyone else.
If she knows that you gave her up because you love her and want a better life for her, it better then never knowing you.
Take if from someone who barely knew her mother. I know why I didn't have a relationship with her (alcoholism), so I never wonder about who she is or why I wasn't good enough for her to love me. Because of what little I know about her, I know enough that I can put her past behind me and not wonder.
2007-05-29 02:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by psgwcmail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best for you to be there for her. They may be able to give her alot of things, but they can never be her father. If you are loving and caring, then there is no reason why you should not be involved in her life.
2007-05-29 01:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to try to answer you ,without sounding hateful,but i was left by my real mother at the age of 2month's,and raised by nun's on a orphanage,i still resent her decision ,and later on it messed with my head when i first had my first child ,i was going to prove to myself i was better then her ,I'm glad to announce i have 3 great children ,and i consider myself a great mom .
your decision may come to hunt you later on ,be ready to answer some hard question's .
2007-05-29 01:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!! Get your kid with you and never let her go again! Even if you cannot give her what the others can... just love her to bits.
Ask her what she would prefer... since she is part of the equation too!
2007-05-29 01:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋