I m not sure why but I get so turned on when a guys takes control and bends me to his will. I love to be a sub is it wrong?
2007-05-28 18:47:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Totally not. Whatever works for you. As long as no one gets hurt and both are enjoying themselves. :)
2007-05-28 18:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong, just keep in mind that moderation is good. Make sure you maintain self respect. It is tempting to let others control you. the feeling one gets when they are under compleat control is difrent for everyone, some are ment for sub, some are ment for dom, and some are a bit of both.
It is totaly fine to be a sub, as long as it dosen't lead to abuse and or use.
As a bit of advice from a long time sub, and a masocist, control is best with love and moderation.
Be safe, and love your self, I hope you find the dom of your dreams and if you already have found him I am extreemly happy for you.
and if you are over 18 I'd do a search for "TSR" (the slave register) its a good intresting online comunity that is heavy in to the bdsm you can learn alot about that kind of thing there.
2007-05-29 01:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by Aztrik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural to want someone to give you direction in life, and I believe its one thing that women experience more than men. Hopefully this feeling will lead to a happy and loving relationship with your husband, both supporting one another.
However, realize that you need to take special precaution against abusive control. Some give and take is normal, but when a guy consistenty bends you to his will, not yours, you need to stand up for yourself and get help. Maintain your self respect and his limitations.
Understand that many guys want a girl to take some initiative. I could say I am one of those guys. To me, it is more important to know my partner cares about us than to have control. Don't let the man do everything; do as much good as you can.
2007-05-29 01:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Cody P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you are a Christian or not so I'm not sure what set of morals you are refering to when you ask if it is wrong. From my standpoint, a nineteen year old celibate Christian, I can not discern if it is wrong. I mean, to be bluntly honest, I would have to try it in order to know if it's wrong. As bad as that sounds, I just don't completely know what domination entails. My rule of thumb judgement would be 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. Is domination kind? Is it rude? Is it self-seeking? Is it easily angered? Does it always protect, trust, hope, endure? Actually just reading that convinces me that domination is not Godly and is wrong. When I am married, I want to love my wife and for my wife to love me. I want the most pure and true love that I can possibly have for my wife and if that means biting my tongue when I want to yell... I'll do it. If it means staying up late to comfort her... I'll do it. If it means not having sex the way I'd like to try... I'll do it. Sexuality, furthermore Love, is not made for your pleasure. Sexuality is a gift of God to a man and woman in the covenant of marriage. Love is sacrifice.
2007-05-29 02:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult question. If it is only for fun... something that the both of you enojoy and get pleasure out of, then it is okay-- neither weird or disgusting. But- don't let it move beond the bedroom. Do not let this guy make an **** out of you in public.
Other than that, if it with love and respect... then have all the kinky fun you want.
2007-05-29 01:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by ravenna_wing1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different when it comes to likes and dislikes about sex. It is a personal choice, and since everyone likes different things and are turned on by different things, no one can really place judgment on you in particular and label you as unusual because of your preferences. Do whatever you like, that is between you and your partner, if you are satisfied with your sex life then don’t be concerned with what others think.
2007-05-29 01:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a gift! We need more women like you! My ex was like that now I wonder if I'll ever find a girl as good as her. Will you marry me? lol jk Every guy Loooooooves that! Unless you're willing to do ANYTHING like have other people join in or something the ya you're gross
2007-05-29 01:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by lonely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's quite common. There's a rush in letting yourself go and turning over control to another person.
Don't worry about it at all. You only have to look at Alt.com to realize how many thousands of people share your kink.
Enjoy!
2007-05-29 01:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally not :)
-Coming from a guy's perspective... I love to dominate. I don't see anything wrong with this. It's hot!
2007-05-29 01:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong. Most women like for their men to be able to take control of their body and give them pleasure. Nothing wrong with it for sure ;)
2007-05-29 01:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by kceg85 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋