there's this guy who I really don't like. He's got bad body odor, and I'm not physically attracted to him....and he just isn't charming at all. He is a pretty nice person, but he is boring, and he is from Nigeria and I can barely understand a word that he says, which really gets on my nerves, but he always calls me. Am I wrong or shallow for not liking him for these reasons? I'm sorry, but I HAVE to be with someone that I am attracted to physically AND emotionally. You can't have one without the other.
2007-05-28 16:58:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think ugly is not the main reason you don't like him. I know ugly guys that have hot girlfriends. The chemistry, the charm, the conversations...thats what gets your heart mostly.
Thats why you are not wrong! Don't feel bad about it!
2007-05-28 17:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right when you say YOU CAN"T as you HAVE to be with someone that ur attracted to physically and emotionally, but when you say you can't have one without the other, you're wrong* This is your decision, your choice, tis what you want to do.....Not to be with him for the reasons you stated and that is fine..you're not shallow if someone gets on your nerves and always calls when you don't fancy him.,and find them boring.....you need to tell him you don't want a relationship with him , but just to be a friend. that's it. But some ppl in this world do take one with out the other.....they don'tmind if he's not handsome, or if he's balled, or overweight, or too short or way too tall, or whatever but they still love that man for whats on the INSIDE* That's what counts to alot of ppl. How he treats his woman and family, does he respect the woman he's with and women in general? do you both enjoy doing the same things, does he make you laugh, comfort you, include you in his life., help you grow as a person, make you feel good about yourself and about life, thinks of You and Your feelings........So......it doesn't matter if you don't have one without the other, ......just my opinion*~ Keep on Smlin*
2007-05-29 00:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not hiring the guy to be a worker in a company and your love life is not Affirmative action/equal opportunity. Do what you want to do and there is no ethical limitations limiting you to why not to reject a guy. If you feel that a guy's Adam's apple is the wrong right size and hence he is not right or that he is too short or he is too ugly; it is ok and forget anyone that thinks otherwise. Just be aware that you may be limiting yourself to a guy that look good and sounds nice but deep down is full of it and eventually will mistreat you.
2007-05-31 20:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by Green 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could grow on you later or perhaps something will grow on him later considering it sounds like he might have a problem with bathing which hygeine is very important. It says a lot about you. Physical attraction draws us in the emotion keeps us attatched. If you're not attracted to him then tell him and move on from this. You can't help how you feel and he deserves the honesty.
2007-05-29 00:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by Will 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of complaining why don't you just change your number and stop talking to him. If you don't like him and he smiles and you are not attracted to him there is no since of you keeping in contact with him is there ??
Change your number and if you see him tell him your phone got shut off or broke and you don't have enough cash to get a new one.
You told have to talk to him you know. And you can be attracted to someone physically but not emotionally and vise versa
2007-05-29 00:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong, you can't help what you feel. The simple fact that you have more reason's than just that he is ugly shows you are not a shallow person. Don't beat yourself up over this one, my guess is you are a really nice and caring person.
2007-05-29 00:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by DaBrat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong for this.. People have preferences. As long as you're not hurting his feelings, or letting him believe something might happen between you, then it's ok. Not everyone will interest you.. If you believe he is a good person, but you just don't want to have a romantic relationship with him, you could tell him you just want to be friends.. Unless you don't of course. Hope this helps
2007-05-29 00:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't feel right saying I don't like someone just because he is ugly but with the body odor and his poor English, it would be real hard to want to be with him. Don't let him know it is because of his looks though, that would be cruel. Just tell him you want to be friends only.
2007-05-29 00:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am going through the same thing. My opinion is though, if you don't like him, then it wasn't meant to be. You don't have to force yourself to like him-maybe you guys just don't connect. And I totally get what you're saying in the looks department...it's important for people to be attracted to each other and have common interests. Just don't be mean or anything to him, but you don't have to like in that way either.
Good luck :)
2007-05-29 00:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok, how could you be attracted to someone that clearly bothers you that much? its understandable not to like him, just tell him to chill with the calling you, and its cool that you're being honest about it, i dont think its shallow. you might also want to tell him to use deoderant (in a nice way ofcourse)=}
2007-05-29 00:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by izzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋