my current wife allways takes my child ou to buy me something for these holidays and my exwife knows this but still goes out and buys me something.This pisses my wife(they hate each other) off as she feels my ex has no reason to buy me anything and its not my childs idea but my exwifes doing.I have to add this is the only nice thing my ex does but why?I don't want to say anything to her my ex as she will make a stink and i don't want my child to feel bad.
2007-05-28 15:06:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
despite the fact that my ex husband has a current wife who does buy him gifts, I always buy a little something for my ex. (Coffee gift certificates, cause the man drinks 12 cups a day) no more than that. My kids are the best thing that man ever gave me besides grief and I am grateful for them. It is a sign of respect and a show of good faith for my kids. My husband (now) did not understand this at first but is in agreement that my ex will always be their father and deserves respect at fathers day and christmas. they don't care for each other either. I give him gift certificates at christmas for blockbuster too. something they can do as a family and my ex enjoys renting movies, he's there all the time anyways.You and your wife can maybe think of this as a compliment and that she is thankful to you for giving her your kids. I can only hope that this is not malicious in any manner because it trumps my efforts of trying to do something decent. Hope this helps.
2007-05-28 16:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, boy! You are between the proverbial rock and the hard place aren't you?!
Try this: act like this has nothing to do with the matter at hand and ask the ex if instead of putting money into gifts she wouldn't rather put it into a college fund for the little tyke. After all, college and graduate school can set you back a fine fortune these days. Just think about how much it will be when your child is old enough in 14 or 15 years!!
2007-05-28 15:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's her way of saying she's sorry your wife should chill out after all your with her not your ex tell her 2 Grow Up and if I was the Ex I'd tell Your Wife 2 Butt Out where it doesn't concern her after all it's a gift from your ex for your child and who knows maybe your child wants Mommy 2 do this have you ever considered this nothing wrong there
2007-05-28 15:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your wife is in the wrong.
The child is not your wife's--it's yours and your ex's. It's her chance to do something special for you [her son's father] with your child. It's HER responsibility.
I can understand why your ex-wife wants to do this. She is trying to teach your son [regardless of her own feelings towards you] that it's still okay to love you. That you are still his dad no matter how she feels. She's trying to mend over her ill-feelings for you and does this with your child.
Your current wife has no business buying things for your child. She can buy you a gift from HER on father's day, Christmas, and other holidays.
You need to remember your ex isn't doing this because she still likes you. She's doing this to help YOUR CHILD!
2007-05-28 15:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your current wife should save her money (or should I say your money) and let the ex spend her's..... Your wife is just feeling insecure that it's still something from the EX... BUT it's for the child to give so she needs to accept this...
Save the money up and treat yourselves to a romantic night away once a year for you both... when you look at it that way the ex is really saving you money!!!!
Be grateful my ex has never bought me anything from our chlidren, and even used to refused to beleive in mothers day but firmly beleived in fathers day.. .The ex could be doing worse to you... she is making sure your child celebrates you as their father on special occasions.... ENJOY !!!!!!!
2007-05-28 15:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your current wife to quit being so insecure and to grow up. If I was your ex wife I would take my child shopping for her daddy's present because I wouldn't want your new wife doing it because I would feel she was trying to take over as my daughter's mom so to me your ex wife is doing nothing wrong. Your wife is just childish.
Sarah
2007-05-28 15:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by Saerah 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs to get over it. You will ALWAYS be connected to your ex-wife because of your kids. If your current wife wants to get you something, thats her deal. I think thats very nice and polite of your ex to do that for you. She is teaching your children good manners by doing so. Good luck to you.
2007-05-28 16:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by euphoriarevelation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child is from your ex wife-the actual childs MOTHER. Your new wife is not the mother and should back off. Its your new wife that is causing the stress not the old one.
2007-05-28 15:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That your name is Heather makes me wonder if you are actually the current wife. Yahoo ids are not that hard to get.
Now on the situation, if you dont want to make the child feel bad, and thats your number one priority, leave it alone.
2007-05-28 15:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is only one of many battles you are going to have to deal with let your wife know theres nothing wrong with what your ex is doing. the sooner you get her over her insecurities, the better off you'll be.
2007-05-28 15:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by pooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋