Im so devastated, shocked, depressed and scared. Ive had this cat since i was not even a year old and now i am 13 years old. He had kindney failure and that made him loose weight and die. He died about 8 hours ago. He couldnt get up from lying down and my mom just took him to the vet so they could put him to sleep. I don't know how to calm myself down or make myself cheer up. Any answers?
2007-05-28 13:25:32 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Cats
I'm so very, very sorry. The pain of losing a beloved animal cuts deep into the soul. My cat of 15 years passed away five months ago. We also had to have her put down. It was very sad. One thing that helped me (as weird as it sounds) was just looking at http://www.petfinder.com For some reason, looking at all the cats that needed a loving home, made me feel better. It took four months... but I now have an adorable 1-year old who had been left at the Humane Society. His name is Jack Jack - and he's loads of fun. Not that I don't miss my other cat... but Jack Jack has brought a bit of sunshine into our lives. Take care and know you gave your cat a wonderful life.
2007-05-28 14:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am truly, genuinely sorry for your loss. I too had a cat that I loved and lost to kidney failure and had to put to sleep. We had put her through extensive surgeries and procedures but sometimes there is just nothing you can do. Think of it this way, he is no longer suffering and you gave him a happy life for as long as he llived. He was lucky to have a companion such as you who loved him so dearly, and maybe, after the pain subsides a bit, think about rescuing a shelter cat and giving it the same love you gave your cat. There are so many animals in need and everyone is special. While you will never be able to replace him, there may someday be room in your life to find a new friend. I am sorry for your loss and devatation. Good luck.
Zoe
2007-05-28 14:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no definite answer. everyone grieves in there own way.
try to remember the good times.
A normal cats life span is 13-17 years. Your cat had a good life I'm sure.
Your mom did the right thing and had him put to sleep so he didn't suffer.
if you want CRY. Maybe you can have a little service to remember him and the good times with your family.
Just remember he isn't suffering anymore that should at least make you a little happier.
It will take time and don't' think it's weird if you think you hear him. i did this for a long time after my first dog died.
You will probably never forget him but as time goes by you will learn to live with the loss.
Hope you will have a good week. try to be as happy as you can and just remember he isn't suffering anymore.
2007-05-28 13:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kit_kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear this. My cat has kidney failure and will have to be put down soon too. Plus the first cat I had for 16 years and grew up with died of kidney failure also. I know what you are going through. It is hard, but just cry it out and be with people who are close to you that can help comfort you through it. Try watching something funny that can help take your mind off it and make you laugh. It will hurt less over time, I promise.
Big hugs.
2007-05-28 13:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by Very Confused 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. Here is something that may help a little. At the bottom is a link for a website that you may want to visit.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
www.rainbowsbridge.com
2007-05-28 13:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. I also lost a cat that was my best friend for ten years. Don't rush trying to cheer up, you loved him. It will get easier, but it may take a few days. Animals are part of the family and the pain is real. Just remember you gave him as much happiness and pleasure as he gave you. He is no longer in pain and is running free in heaven waiting for the day 100 years from now for you to meet up with him again. As a mother I want to hug you and tell you it will be ok, so go hug your mom, tell your mom you love her. It will help. Things will be fine. Allow yourself to grieve and heal at your own pace.
2007-05-28 13:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 12-year-old cat, Edna, died from the same thing 6-months ago.
I didn't even think I could breathe and didn't care if I did.
However, I let myself feel really bad about it, cried and allowed myself to miss her. And I did this as long as I felt like it.
Pretty soon you just start to feel better and life goes back to normal.
It's very hard losing a lifelong companion but you have all the memories and if you close your eyes and relax you can see her and understand that she will always be with you because you carry her inside of yourself.
2007-05-28 13:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by perfumegirl1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your cat. I know what you mean about having a cat for a long time. Mine is over 19 years old now. The best thing for you to do right now is to let it all out (cry) and then try and get some sleep. And remember that time heals all wounds.
2007-05-28 13:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts. I lost my kittie that I had for 12 or so years. I know that I cried off and on for a week or so, and I am a fifty year old man. Just let yourself cry. Get a new kitten, and you will be very busy. Good luck sweetie; I am very sorry about the loss of your cat.
2007-05-28 14:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I feel your pain! I had to put my 18 yr.old loved cat, to sleep, because she had cancer throughout her body, and wouldnt eat.
I mourned for her for months, and thats OK. You loved your cat, so you should feel sad. I dont believe in replacing a pet immediately.
Just keep busy, and see friends, but you ll always remember. Eventually, you might want to get another pet, perhaps a little dog, or another cat. Good Luck! It s OK to mourn the loss, just as it would be if it were a relative. God Bless, Loubie
2007-05-28 13:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Loubie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋