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and do you confront it? what is the best way to deal with such a situation?

2007-05-28 13:01:48 · 20 answers · asked by SuperGirls™ 5 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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i understand how this can make you feel. but you have to be very careful with how you respond.
getting mad and getting in his face will create a very negative response. so to get the response YOU WANT you should first let him know that it makes you feel really sad when he does that. have a very soft tone. do NOT sound angry. Sound very very sad. and let him know how it bothers you by purposely acting very deppressed around him. dont say anything to his face. just act sad. this will kill him. but its not enough because he'll only learn to do it when your not with him. so the second step is to talk it out and get him to connect with something you say. like,"when you do that, it makes me feel the way you would feel if i always asked you to get plastic surgery. you would wonder why im with you if im not conformed with your physical appearance. you make me feel that youre not conformed with the way i look when you stare at other women. now its OK to LOOK. i understand that our eyes are attracted to pretty things but we are a married couple and to stare is disrespectful. i wish you could feel the sadness i feel inside my heart right now."
never make him feel that something is his fault because he will only want to defend himself.
he might say that "youre making a big deal out of nothing". or "all guys do it". if he does, you have to help him realize that its only the guys that dont know what respect means, that do it.
respect is something men need from women so this will help him connect with you and how YOU feel.
tell him that you want to respect him. all of him. but that it makes it hard when you feel that hes disrespectful. you cant look up to that or admire that. and you want to admire him-tell him that. so this way youre HELPING him learn the rules of marriage and it has more chances of working than anything else. youre being open,honest,and caring about it. it works more than arguing screaming and blaming.

2007-05-28 13:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by Love101 3 · 0 1

I would say it depends on whether they are "noticing" the person or drooling over them. I myself have a very bad habit of being VERY jealous, so this used to be a huge issue for me. I didn't handle any of those times well at all. I would simply get mad & start yelling at him! Even if he was just "noticing" as I can now recognize. If your partner is doing this a lot & it really bothers you, say something. Maybe they don't realize they're doing it & will respect you enough to watch their wandering eyes when you're around.

2007-05-28 13:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I guess it'd depend on the situation and what mood I'm in. We've always had movie star crushes, just something silly, just influences what movies we may rent. And those change too. It's hard to go through life and not notice other people, and sometimes yes those people will be noticeably pretty. I don't know about staring though, it's different than looking, but it's all up to interpretation, and you're the only one who saw it.

2007-05-28 13:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Just me 5 · 0 0

Its alright to take a harmless glance, your partners human. But if it is an obvious stare, then that is disrespectful. And no other person should have your partners attention to that extreme. Let your partner know how it makes you feel, and if your feelings are important, then adjustments should be made with not problem.

2007-05-28 13:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Brush it off and tell yourself "all that matters is he is coming home to me tonight." I've found that it's not such a big deal. If it starts to become a chronic thing, talk to him and express your concerns, but don't get MAD.

2007-05-28 13:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by wenchiepirategirl 3 · 0 0

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2016-10-09 00:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

i think it would make your partner mad if u did the same. i think more than anything its disrespectful at least because u describe it as staring . you can either say "look if u want to spend the night gorking at others im off somewhere where someone will look at me" or at a later time just tell him that you find it tasteless and disrespectful when ur out with him

2007-05-28 13:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by julie s 2 · 0 0

It's not nice to ever stare at anyone,but most of us enjoy looking at good looking person.Simply tell your partner it's ok to take a quick peek but no starring

2007-05-28 13:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by Don M 2 · 0 0

maybe you may feel a little jealous but get over it. He/she is with you. personally i could care less. its in a humans nature to look at the rest of the world. Don't bother to confront it becuse it will just arrise more arguments. if he looks at other women then you just look at other men. then he woun't be able to say ****.

2007-05-28 13:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No, It's not alright. It's natural for a straight person, unless it's out of control.

2007-05-28 13:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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