Hi, I was just wondering, i've really liked this girl for about four months now. We always talk and I can make her laugh and it's great whenever we talk to each other, but i really want to tell her that i like her now. I just want to let her know how i feel but is it too soon to say something like that, or is it okay? I definiteIy don't want to ruin a lovely friendship and i really care about her, i don't want to seem creepy or make things awkward for her at all. I'm totally cool with it if she doesn't feel the same way, and it's totally up to her whether she wants to continue to talk to me or not, the less stress for her, the better. Thank-you in advance for your help and advice, deeply appreciate it - Thank-you. (^_^).
2007-05-28 12:42:26 · 21 answers · asked by Sketch 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds wonderful, and you sound like a perfect boyfriend! Are there some hints she may have been dropping you that you might have missed? Think about the way you two act together, does she laugh and touch your arm, touch your face, ect. I'm sure the answer is there if you look. If you can't seem to find it, make up your own hints to her, or just go for it!! If she didn't like you, you wouldn't be close friends.
2007-05-28 12:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by bbmecum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky. If you tell her you like her, and she doesn't feel the same way...no matter how much you don't think it would happen, chances are your friendship would be over. It just gets too weird after that.
I would say don't come out and directly ask the question. Get a little flirty...spend an afternoon alone at a park having a picnic..try to feel her out first. If it's there it's there...you won't have to ask.
Try to set the stage to let it happen a little more naturally! You may end up with a movie like love story. (If it's meant to be that is!)
2007-05-28 19:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her to see a good movie on the weekend. Don't mention whether it's a date or just as friends, unless she asks, of course.
Just let the relationship grow and when the time feels right and you're pretty sure she likes you, too, then talk to her about it.
You sound so sweet, and I don't know how she totally fall for like a guy like you.
2007-05-28 19:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by RidiculousTallness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to decide this yourself.Life is all about taking risks.If you want to risk your friendship by telling her how feel,go for it.She might feel the same way about you and just never wanted to teel you either.Or you can stay friends and wait until the perfect time comes when you are totally sure and comfortable with telling her the truth.Good luck and best wishes.
2007-05-28 19:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to wear your heart on your sleeve and come right out now and say that you dig her. BUT is there some reason you haven't asked her our on a date? Or if not a full date lunch or ice cream on a Weekend. You can ask her and then say that if she would rather not go it's fine with you to be friends only. If you never ask her out the relationship will never grow. If a guy tells me he likes me but hasn't asked me out I think he's a bit inexperienced, maybe to cheap to spend 8 bucks on some ice cream for us or just a loser. I'm sure you don't want her to think either of those things. If you are afraid to ask her out maybe you can get her some flowers that sort of drops a hint. But don't get roses that comes on to strong for where you are in this. Just get some nice inexpensive fresh flowers. Daises would be nice.
2007-05-28 19:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Book Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two? That has alot to do in how you approach this situation. It is very important that you let her know that you do NOT want to ruin your friendship but you would like to know if there is a chance for something more...Be honest with her but not forceful....Some people are just meant to be great friends and not romantically inclined. Keep that in mind.
2007-05-28 19:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the same way that my current boyfriend felt before we started going out. I honestly didn't know he felt that way because he acted no different. All he had to do was sit me down and tell me how he felt, and it was surprisingly not awkward for either of us. If you tell her exactly what you just wrote, I'm sure it won't be for you two either if she is as great as she seems to be. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you!
2007-05-28 19:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by jlgreenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her and ask her if she feels the same way. You never know until you try. If she doesn't feel the same way, just be friends. Sometimes a good friend is better that a girlfriend.
2007-05-28 19:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by Love<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been friends for four months now so go for it. I'm a girl and it doesn't hurt us for a guy to open up about how he feels. Good Luck!
2007-05-28 19:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out, if she says no act like it's no big deal. (If u need 2 cry, find a private place) Stay friends, and act like it never happened and you'll get over it. If she says yes congrats.! Good luck!
2007-05-28 19:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋