I have tried everything with my six year old son! Time-outs,being sent to his room,no snacks,no t.v,earlier bed time,pretty much everything! He is constantley pushing his sister,and hitting her and everyday she always crys at least once,and I swear it isn't a day if he hasn't done that yet.I have talked to my mom and she thinks that it could be a possible phase and he will grow out of it.His father died in Iraq about a year ago,do you think his actions could be related to his feelings about his father's death,and that this could be his way of letting me know how he feels?
2007-05-28 12:27:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
My daughter his sister is 3 years old.
2007-05-28 12:34:57 · update #1
OMG! Your story brought back memories for me! My son is 7 years older than his sister. He was jealous from the get go. I tried everything humanly possible to let him know that my love for him hadn't changed. He was a bit physically abusive, like pinching, biting, that sort of thing. I wish that I'd taken him to a child psychologist, but I was so sure that I could deal with it myself. With your son losing his father, I would definitely seek out help. I'm so sorry for your lose, God bless you and your children. My heart goes out to you. Let me share this before I close, My son is now 32 and my daughter is25, they have the best relationship and are in contact daily. So it's not all hopeless.
2007-05-28 13:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by tictak kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right it could be due to his Father's death. I am guessing that he feels comfortable with you and your daughter so he expresses his repressed thoughts in inappropriate mannerisms. When he acts in these ways call a family meeting and deal it out. Take turns telling what is wrong then find a solution. Set rules about expressing upset and angry thoughts and post these rules on your refrigerator make sure these rules are clear and if he ever feels upset tell you he can come and talk to you. You may also want to consider Big brothers big sisters program. Best of luck! :)
2007-05-28 12:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by Golden Ivy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends daughters went through the same thing when there dad was deployed. You son is dealing with separation issues. You need to get him into a counselor. Make sure he clicks with the counselor too. If not, try another one. Too many times I have seen people give up on counseling because they don't feel comfortable. You tell your friends your deepest issues, not perfect strangers. Good luck with the little guy. He'll come around.
2007-05-28 12:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Now he has only one parent, and the normal 'small kid on MY turf' has escalated. Does your husband's old unit have a support system for widows. Your son may need some therapy, just to get the scared, confused, and mad out of his system.
Good luck.
2007-05-28 12:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by snoweagleltd 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's plain old sibling rivalry, he is letting his younger sister know that HE was there first and HE rules. Your mother is right, it is a phase, you didn't say how old his sister is but maybe it's time she learned to fight her own battles.
2007-05-28 12:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋