I've known my boyfriend since i was 14 years old, we've had feelings for each other for all those years, but when i was 16 i moved to pennsylvania and then came back one summer when i was 17 and we started talking again and then i took him to my senior prom. we've been dating for a month and we want to move in together, this feels right to me, because i know him very well and we know our little quirks and problems. we also get along very well, and i don't want to tell my parents because they will be so mad at me and i don't want them to guilt me into staying home because i need to leave sooner or later. my mom is emotionally abusive as well, she makes me feel horrible about myself. my boyfriend gets me through those hard times and he makes me feel happy and good about myself. i just need advice! any advice! thanks, loves!
2007-05-28 12:16:47 · 23 answers · asked by KaityKat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. It's too soon if you've only been together for a month, no matter how long you've known him.
2007-05-28 12:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ever want the respect you deserve in a relationship do not move in without marriage.
Living together may seem as though it is accepted in the US today, but woman who live with men are looked down on, in all but the lowest income social groups. On top of that, most woman who live with men never marry them. If you live together you are likely to get pregnant. Are you ready for a child out of wedlock.
If he is a good man, he will help you through things where ever you live and you will have the respect of knowing he cares about YOU and not that he cares about getting convenient sex. You need to find your own place. If you can find a female friend to get a place with you will be much better off and much more respected in the long run. The decisions you make now will determine the respect you receive for the rest of your life. Believe me it is not worth taking the easy road at this point. You have a lot of life before you.
If he really wants you to move in with him than tell him it is all the way or nothing. Marriage and commitment.
2007-05-28 19:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by lovingmomhappykids 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! Unless you never want your relationship to get any deeper and/or become a marriage. If you want it to regress and get less close move right on in. Even in 2007 your grandmother's advice "Why would a man buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free?" is totally true. Most men don't get deeper involved with a woman and/or marry if he's getting everthing they want with no commitment. I've seem women shacking up with guys for 4 years. They get sick of the fact that the relationship only got worse but he loved having sex 2XS a day and being cooked for every night. She leaves and 7 months later he's MARRYING ANOTHER WOMAN! Why? Because this very sharp lady made it clear that he would get NONE of the perks that a hubby gets until he legally becomes her hubby and she never budged one bit on that. Giving him sex once a week if that much, no sleeping over or cooking for him and definately no shacking up and living with him! Enough said.
2007-05-28 19:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Book Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should do what makes u happy and i know what u mean by ur mom makes u feel horrible about ur self and that ur boyfriend gets u through the hard times and makes u feel happy and good about ur self i have that same problem with my mom we dont get along and when she makes me feel bad and makes me cry my boyfriend gets me through it and i feel a lot better after i talk to him so i know what ur going throu i would say ya move in with him if u think its going to work out i wish u the best of luck have a good life with ur boyfriend
2007-05-28 19:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by Someoneslilgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart,But honestly i say give it at least 2 more months just to see how everything is i know you've known him for a very long time,but its not the same from friends to more then that,I'm moving in with my fiance in sep we've been together for 5 months, i adore him and love with with all i have moving in is a HUGE step in a relationship..basically your married
2007-05-28 19:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥LOVE♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a decision you are going to have to make, but don't trade in one problem for another set of problems.
Yes you may "know" this person, but you won't really know them until you live with them, plus you add the sex to the issue.
Whether or not this has happend is important. Once you add sex into the mix, this brings up all sorts of other problems.
Be very careful about what you do, because one mistake, can be very harmful to the rest of your life.
P.S. When we date someone, they only see the BEST part of us, none of us show the bad side to our potential mate..
2007-05-28 19:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ronnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not. If you and your parents don't get along find a friend to room with or a family member. I also think you are a little unsure or you would not be asking. Take it slow if its meant to be you can make that commitment later. Dont let someone else make you feel good about yourself. You have to love yourself before you can give it to someone else.
2007-05-28 19:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by shelly c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never mentioned how old this boyfriend is, so it is hard to give you good sound advice. But I will tell you this. Don't move in with anyone you only knew for one month. If your Mother is the reason why you want to leave then tell her what she is doing. Maybe she doesn't realize it.
2007-05-28 19:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by Ugogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can but you need to know more about him like when you left did he had a girl friend or something like that ,or know more about him how he lead his life , how he has change and all that. but i think you are to young to move in with him but if you think you can handle your problems and all the difficulties that you face then have your parents blessings and do what your heart say or what you think i know this is a very difficult decision for you to make but do what you know you will not regret it in the future, bye and i wish you good luck and enjoy , may the Lord be with you
2007-05-28 19:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by Noel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right to you but go in with your eyes wide open. Be prepared living together is going to change things. It probably will not be all roses. If your committed enough, you can work through it.
2007-05-28 19:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Panda L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're only 17? No I don't think it's a good idea because you aren't grown up yet. Just stay home and date him like you've been doing. Wait another year maybe and THEN consider taking such a step.
2007-05-28 19:19:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋