Jehovah's whitness won't go to bed with me...why?

Question

I'm a 30 year old guy and been going out with that girl for 3 months.She's 26 and she says she won't have s_e_x_ with me cause of her religion.But we have done everything else and I mean everything.What's this all about?

what does decency and morals have to do with it?...it's just sex!

Answer 1

I agree with you about morals having nothing to do with sex.
It's just that some people are highly connected to their beliefs and are not willing to give them up for anyone or anything.
I'm not religious,but I respect people's need to believe in something.
Maybe you should talk to her about it,cause if you have done "everything else",she may be technically a virgin but to her god she has commited a sin.
So there's really no point in not having sex.
On the other hand,if she feels uncomfortable about it,you don't have to marry her after only three months of dating,or wait for her if you don't feel like it,so you may have to let her go and move on.
For the people here talking about love and marriage and morals...come on guys....when did people stop dating and getting to know each other before falling in love and getting married?
Couldn't this be why 50% of marriages end up in divorce?!

Answer 2

This is one of the many reasons that religions are a load of crap (I'm not specifically talking about one religion, just religion in general). This is a belief of Jehovah's Witnesses; that you cannot have sex before marriage. However, it is a somewhat stupid belief: in modern society, sex isn't dangerous (if you use adequate protection), and it certainly shouldn't be a bad thing: it allows you to "preview" her - you wouldn't want to first get married, only to discover that you are never going to have the sex life you wanted because of something to do with her. Really, if you have done "everything else", then just try to get around her daft religion - don't call it sex directly, and build up to the real thing. Start off with just some fingers or toys, then rubbing your "bits" together, and with a bit of luck, she'll put her religion aside at night time.

Edit: The decency and morals thing - there isn't anything wrong with sex. If we stop having sex, we stop having children, and the species dies. On top of that, there is nothing "immoral" or "indecent" about two consenting adults having sex. Rape or child abuse is "immoral" or "indecent". This guy isn't raping anyone. There is nothing "immoral" about sex.

Answer 3

From the Jehovah's Witnesses Official Web Site
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20040722a/article_01.htm

Just how should a Christian view premarital sex? And what about so-called alternatives to intercourse? Are they acceptable to God? Are they safe? And do they really preserve one’s virginity?

What Fornication Includes

An authoritative answer to these questions can come only from our Creator—Jehovah God. And in his Word he tells us to “flee from fornication.” (1 Corinthians 6:18) Just what does that mean? The Greek word translated “fornication” is not restricted to sexual intercourse but includes a variety of lewd acts. So if two unmarried people engage in oral sex or in fondling each others’ reproductive organs, they are guilty of fornication.

But could they still be considered virgins—that is, in God’s eyes? In the Bible the word “virgin” is used as a symbol of moral purity. (2 Corinthians 11:2-6) But it is also used in a physical sense. The Bible tells of a young woman named Rebekah. It says that she was “a virgin, and no man had had sexual intercourse with her.” (Genesis 24:16) Interestingly, in the original Hebrew, the word for “intercourse” evidently included other acts besides normal man/woman intercourse. (Genesis 19:5) So, according to the Bible, if a youth engaged in any form of fornication, he or she could hardly be considered a virgin.

The Bible exhorts Christians to flee not only from fornication itself but also from all forms of unclean conduct that could lead to it.# (Colossians 3:5) Others may ridicule you for taking such a stand. “‘You don’t know what you’re missing!’ is what I heard all through high school,” says a Christian youth named Kelly. However, premarital sex is nothing more than the “temporary enjoyment of sin.” (Hebrews 11:25) It can cause lasting physical, emotional, and spiritual harm.

Answer 4

Sounds like you doing your best to be a stumbling block for her, to draw her away from Christ. It does not matter what religion she is all teach that sex, as well as play sex, is wrong. The only difference is JWs follow the same mandates given the original congregations by the Apostles, to keep the congregation clean.

I imagine that if she was Amish, under age 21, when they have more freedom than adults, you would be trying to drive a wedge between her and her family and church, by enticing her away.

Be proud of yourself, you're a fine example of what is wrong in society.

Answer 5

She believes that sex is an important enough thing that she wants to wait to have it with someone that will respect her and love her and be committed enough to her to want to stay with her forever. Not meaning to be rude, but it doesn't really sound like you. And why don't you talk to her about it? It's important that you can actually talk to your girlfriend about stuff that's important enough to her to affect the way she lives. Maybe you'll both learn something by challenging each other on what you believe.

Answer 6

I'm surprised that she's going out with you if you don't respect her beliefs. You seem more interested in sex than in her. Don't you ever listen to her? Pressurizing her for sex is not a loving thing to do.

I hope she wakes up & smells the coffee & realises that you're no good for her before it's too late.

Answer 7

A true Jehovah's Witness doesn't believe in premarital sex. That includes oral sex! This may sound cold but she's being a hypocrite.

Answer 8

Some people, believe in Marriage before sex. Maybe thats why she won't go any further. Ask her.

Answer 9

You'll have to marry her first mate!

I'm suprised shes even going out with you most of them stick to people from their church.

Its an old fashioned thing called morals.

Answer 10

Have you no morals? You shouldn't even be doing the everything else - no matter WHAT religion you are!!

Are there no decent men out there anymore?
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PapaBear it is so wonderful to AGREE on something!