I'll sum this up... im 19 and my parents are very very rich. They give me anything i want... nice cars, my own house, money... but its like they're controlling who i date. They have VERY high standards of the girls i bring back home. As soon as i bring a girl home, if she's not rich they'll start dissing her. The girls i bring back are always good looking but not always rich, and my parents do background checks on these girls' and their families. and then if they're parents arent doctors or CEO's they dont like the girl.
what can i do to change this?
2007-05-28 12:02:23 · 29 answers · asked by puablondes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry that your parents are so ignorant, explain to them that not everyone is made of money. That is really sad, I am sorry. If you love someone, don't let your parents change that.
2007-05-28 12:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's messed up. Not everyone is rich. However I would take in to consideration the type of girl too. Where do you meet them? Are they the gold digger type?
Take time to get to know them before bringing them home. You are 19 there is no need to rush things. If they are girls that make you happy then you should sit down with your parents and have a discussion with them. Find out why they are doing what they do.
Sounds to me like they are a bit overprotective. Background checks? Thats a bit out of line even if they do want the best for you.
2007-05-28 12:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by Duaernil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats a toughie. I would say you should talk to your parents about what is important in a girl/relationship in your opinion. In my mind, being rich should most definetely not be the highest priority. To me, thats just lucky! I think you should try explaning to your parents that you look for a girl who is nice, caring, sweet, loving, polite, likes you for who you are, and is attractive. The thing is, you should tell your parents that if they are only looking at how much money the girl has, they are missing out on what a wonderful girl she really is. There's more to life than money! I'm sure all of the girls you bring home are (or should be) worth more than all the money in the world to you and vice versa. Good luck and i hope this helped somewhat!
2007-05-28 12:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide for yourself that you are going to keep letting them support you and supply you with everything you want or need.
If you do so then they will feel that they have the right you control you and all of the choices you make in your life forever more.
If you want a life of your own, you are going to have to become the adult that your age says that you are becoming, and stand up to them and choose your girlfriends on your own. If they are going to basically blackmail you into doing as they say, with regards to your social life, you are not going to have a life of your own.
You have better come up with a backup plan for your life that does not include living off of your parents money, or you will be their puppet for as long as you live.
Your parents may be trying to save you from someone who could be after your money; or rather their money. They do sound like snobs, no offence intended. There are many valuable people in the world, and their value has nothing to do with material wealth.
Good luck and have a good night.
2007-05-28 13:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude but your parents will never respect you or your decisions in life until you start doing things for yourself and stop accepting everything that they give you. The longer your parents provide for you, the longer they get to control your life and whoever gets to be in your life. Then the next thing you know is that you have fell in love with some girl an decide not to give her up even if you parents doesnt like her, then the next thing you know your parents have cut you off because of who you love. Then what do you do?...Now your in love but broke and homeless at the same time. Dont let the control get to that point.
Good luck!
2007-05-28 12:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by ♣Chronickandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant change your parents.Get a job and a place of your own and date who you want.They cant control you if you give them back the "purse strings".However, a lot of low income girls are dysfunctional(then on the other hand the kids who did the columbine shootings were well offf).They dont want you to hook up with trailor park trash son, yet theres some good decent girls who come from poor back grounds.Be your own man.Work on getting a good paying job and supporting yourself.You dont have to be rich to be happy.It doesnt hurt but it isnt necesary.
2007-05-28 12:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont introduce the girls to them. Youre not getting married anytime soon, so the girls you are dating dont have to be someone your parents know.
When you find a girl later that you do want to be with and you know your parents wont approve, you'll have to decide if what you have with her is enough to make you stand up to your parents.
At some point you may have to support your self in order to take the control from them, otherwise their money means their way.
2007-05-28 12:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by frankee_77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your nineteen right? so, its not really there decision anymore, your technically an adult. MOVE OUT!
its your life, your parents arent the people who have to live with this girl for the rest of there life, its you. do what you feel is right. just because someone is a doctor or a CEO doesnt make you better then anyone..just watch out for golddiggers, how about trying not telling girls about your rich parents for a while..just let them like you for you :)
hope this helped ; ]
2007-05-28 12:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start taking care of yourself and then ignore their comments. Of course, you're a bit young to take care of yourself completely and, no doubt, you're accustomed to a certain way of living, but there is no way they're going to stop what they're doing.
You have to expect this from parents who think that a girl accustomed to less than your type of lifestyle is just using you to get money, gifts, or for you to share your lifestyle with them. I would think that they are trying to protect you (however there is the chance that they are just snobs - which is what your description relays).
Or, you can hide your relationships from them until you really meet someone you think is dating you for who you are and not for your parents' money. Then you can bring her home. The person who is really there for you and not your money will pass any test your parents throw at her without flinching.
I hope this helps - good luck with this frustrating situation.
2007-05-28 12:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by 1+1=2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up literally and figuratively! When you are 21 you can tell them to blow it out their ears. But, actually, they probably think you lack judgment as most young people do. They do not want you to be stuck with a gold-digger who will take half of your fortune later on. I predict that you will meet a girl who will wow them sometime in the future.Good luck!
2007-05-28 12:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 00:43:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋