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Question

There are a lot of christian woman who would love to get married and I have a ministry of praying for these ladies to find godly husbands.

I had 2 friends say to me that as they get older in being single they get more lonely. It just seems like there are no good men left they are either married, have secret addictions. dont want to lead a home, and sad to say a lot of men even christians will not stay with a woman unless she agrees to either fool around or have sex with them.

I am married and I am blessed to have a godly man, but what can I say or do to encourage these godly woman who are going through such a hard time? What would be a good way to minister to these woman? I feel badly that these godly woman are struggling and lonely because they would make wonderful awesome wives.

I also feel bad because I am married and they are not and they are deserving of a happy life with being married. What can I say to them?

Answer 1

As a single woman that would love to get married, just tell me you are praying for my husband-to-be. Now I'm an exception to the rule since not every single woman that wants to be married gets married. Many years ago I received a prophecy that I'd go back to Africa with my husband. At the moment I'm studying to be a pastor so I can be a missionary (a pre-requisite in my church for being a missionary) . I'm in the middle of my studies so the time isn't right for me to go back to Africa but I know it's coming, and the Lord is preparing that special man for me.

For lonely women, invite them into your home and be friends with them, making their life and important part of your so they don't feel left out. Only the Lord can fill that loneliness. He has filled mine so it's only sometimes that I get overwhelmed by that feeling. I'm part of a single women's bible study and it helps to be with women who understand about being single.

Answer 2

If the man won't stay with the woman unless they fool around, then the man isn't a true christian. If he say's he is then he is a liar, or his eyes have been blinded. A true christian would act like one.With the rate of divorce being so high, it is better to not marry until the right one comes along, than to marry the pushy one and get stuck in a bad marriage, and have to go through a divorce.There is nothing wrong with remaining single, pure and free to serve God, until they are older and maybe when the right one that is pure and good comes then they won't already be joined to the cheater, and not able to marry the right one.
I know lots of christians we thought would never marry, then found a good person to marry in their late 20's or mid 30's.

Answer 3

I'm only 21, so I can't say that I am the voice of reason and experience, but I have been a follower of Christ for a while now and I too am single and looking for a woman who is in a relationship with God. HOWEVER... the truth is, not everyone has been intended to have a spouse. This is not something that we want to admit and hear about but it is true. God has laid out our lives already. He knows what is going to happen, our paths have been made by him. We cannot force a person to be wedded to someone just because they feel lonely.

What I have found is this. Knowing that Christ has laid down his life for my sin, whether I have a partner on this earth is unimportant. Yes it would be great to share my love of Christ and to glorify him along side a partner, however if I never meet a woman...thats not goingto hold me back from praising God.

Society today is so caught up in "Love". Humans today have become dependant on "love" in that we belong in a relationship and if we aren't in one at any given moment, than something is wrong with us. This is not the case. In fact, if anything, being single, makes our lives even that much more devoted to God and that much more amazing. For when you marry someone you have to split your love. Because you Love God but you also love your spouse. I'm not saying you still don't love God with all your heart, but when your single, it is only you and God and no one in between.

Below is a link to the church I belong to. it just so happens that recently my pastor did a three week sermon on dating and marriage. I believe in the third week he makes reference to the fact that we aren't all going tohave partners. However i strongly suggest that you listen to the messages. The pastor offers great insight and is enjoyable to listen to.

Just one last word of advice. Whenever you or anyone single or even married is feeling down. Anyone at all can do this, but go outside for a walk. And just look at everything God has created. Whether it's rainging and thundering or it's a bright shiny day. Just take a moment to look at the majesty that he shows us everyday. Everyday I try to devote an hour of my time to simply listen to christian music and experience the world that God has created around and within me. Contemporary artists such as David Crowder and Chris Tomlin offer excellent songs of worship.

God Bless! Everything will work out well for as long as you are in God's favor.

Answer 4

Try to build up their trust with God. Teach them to trust that the Lord will provide for them in His perfect timing, and remind them that He always works for the good of those who love Him.

Don't let them fall for the lie that Satan is trying to get them to believe: that they aren't deserving of a loving, Christian husband. The enemy wants them to believe this, and settle for less than the best (an unbeliever) which will end up destroying them.

On the other hand, don't let them become so caught up in finding a perfect man that they miss the good ones that come along, too. Nobody is perfect (except God, of course!)

Help them to find a healthy balance.

Make sure that they keep on striving to become the type of person that they would want to marry! Study the Word and continue to grow in their faith. The right man will come along for them in God's timing. Keep faith!

I like how Superchic[k] (band) says it in their song, "Princes and Frogs" -- don't let your Prince come along and find you kissing a frog!

Continue praying for them; it makes a world of difference!!

Of course, I'm no expert on this. I have no first-hand experience and I don't really know what they're feeling (I'm only fourteen, almost fifteen years old.)

God bless you and your ministry! :-)

Answer 5

They need to have a real and honest discussion with God about it. They need to go into prayer, and ask God hard questions. Many times God will not allow godly people to do something (such as get married) because they are not ready for one reason or another. They need to go to God, "wrestle" with him, and ask why if he will send them a godly man. And if they HAVE been praying and it hasn't happened, they need to ask God why.

I've been through this... I wasn't able to get into any kind of relationship until my husband, when I was 27. I had about 4 years of conversations with God about my deep desire for a marriage, family, etc. The first conversation he told me that I needed to heal first. Years later, he told me that he would not send me a husband because of my fear of rejection. Later, I found out how deep that was, and how it would have destroyed any relationship I got into. I worked with the Holy Spirit for years to get out of that rejection fear thinking. Later, God finally told me that "my Isaac" (like the promise of a child to childless Abraham), would be here within one year. 9 months later I started dating the man who is now my husband.

They need to start these discussions with God. God is the only one who knows their hearts, and he needs to speak to them.

Answer 6

say the truth.
That their future is planned out already and God has a plan for them!
Tell them not to worry b/c everything happens for a reason and that if they are meant to be with someone that perfect someone WILL come along and EVERYTHING WILL work out. Its only a matter of time and pacience.
Tell them that all the 'godly guys' out there aren't God b/c someone is waiting for them, and if it is God's will then it will happen.
Tell them to hang tight because everything will work out and be alright.

God Bless!

Answer 7

There are people who have a gift of being single. They may be relatively content to be single but have some melancholy days just like anyone else.

Answer 8

Perhaps if they weren't so "godly", they'd have husbands by now. Religion causes so much stress in relationships. Besides, religion is a poor predictor of morality. So, if they do find "godly" men, it doesn't mean that they find good men.

Yet another way that religious superstition harms society.

Answer 9

Well......I`m religious and I would not stay with a man unless he agrees to fool around and have sexe with me! c'mon! They want to be wives or nuns?

Answer 10

Actually.. that is ISLAM there... buddy.