Say your bf/gf has a friend of the opposite sex...this friend has a crush on your bf/gf, and is not happy at all that you are with him/her, and tells your bf/gf at one point that if he/she does not stop seeing you, he/she will not be their friend anymore. After this your bf/gf decides to still be friends with this person, and you make your discomfort with that known repeatedly yet nothing is done to soothe it. How would you feel if this happened to you?
2007-05-28 11:05:33 · 10 answers · asked by JP 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your gf/bf has said they have no interest in the person however...
2007-05-28 11:06:30 · update #1
It should be an issue. Your significant other needs to make a choice. Your partner needs to realize that this "friend" is not being a friend at all. This friend should be happy that your partner is happy where they are at, the simple fact that this friend is trying to be more is enough to put an end to the friendship. If your partner chooses their friend over you, then I am sorry to say that your partner has no respect for you or your relationship together. Heaven knows your significant other would be throwing a fit if the situation were reversed. Best of luck and God bless~
2007-05-28 11:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as it does not cause a problem with the relationship the bf/gf did the right thing, he called this persons bluff. The ball is now in the friends court, they said they would end the friendship. If it interferes in the relationship, outside of some discomfort knowing this person wants the bg/gf I would leave it alone. Sounds like the bf/gf is handling it well.
2007-05-28 11:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all...your bf/gf's "friend" should know their boundries and know what is appropriate to ask of your bf/gf. If they can't accept that you and your significant other are in a relationship and happy, then they are not a true friend of your significant other, and they should think about that. Secondly, if your bf/gf wants to continue being friends with this person, there's not much you can do but make it known that you are placing that trust in them, and once they break it you're done. I've had a similar situation to this recently, only i was the bf/gf and i didn't want to stop being friends with someone my significant other didn't like. I admit that it's wrong, but as long as i know where my boundries are and i respect my "significant other" enough to remain faithful i don't think there is a problem. As far as your bf/gf's friend trying to jeaprodize your relationship, they shouldn't have that power. If your bf/gf really cared about you, and they were really worth it they wouldn't let a friend of theirs get in the way. A relationship is all about trust, and knowing ones boundries. It's also about acting like adults, if you are, your gf/bf should realize that they're not in HS anymore...and if they want their relationships to prosper they need to quit acting immature.
2007-05-28 11:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by hplover91 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be comfortable, for sure - it really comes down to how long they've known that person... If it's a friend of theirs for years, that kind of thing isn't odd. There are always friends who can't stand someone's choice of bf/gf... Has this person admitted to having a crush, or are you just assuming it?
I'd expect your bf/gf to spend less time with that person until they stop acting like a fool...
2007-05-28 11:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Proto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your bf/gf friend has a bf/gf, making said bf/gf just a friend. maybe your bf/gf's bf/gf should look at all the facts of the bf/gf's friend and their bf/gf...damn! i'm getting all confused! hahaha kisses? ~slyly grinning~
2007-05-29 21:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a problem for me, not because the "friend" is interested in my bf, but rather because she is making him choose betweeen her or me and instead of putting a stop to it he just stays quiet and does nothing.
2007-05-28 11:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Curious_Camo_Jess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your bf/gf will realize that this person is not their true friend if they want him/her to break up with you...yea it's quite uncomfortable, but if he truely loves you, he won't break up with you and will tell them that
2007-05-28 11:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be so weirded out that I would ask my partner to tell this other person (in front of me) that they're not romantically interested in them, but only in me. If you do this, the reaction of your partner and this friend will clear the air, but it is possible that you will be the one out in the cold, so brace yourself. If it really means that much to you, let your partner know it. You might show this and the other answers to them.. it might help.
2007-05-28 11:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by barbarian31@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it would be an issue with me because the friend is trying to start trouble
2007-05-28 11:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by igottadrive2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him/her
2007-05-28 11:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by lnhja 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋