I have decided on a beach wedding in the Hawaii for my upcoming wedding. However for all my life I have had a picture of what I want for my wedding. Even though the wedding is technically less formal, I want each person in the wedding party formally dressed. I plan to wear white stockings with three inch open toed sandals.
I know this may be uncomfortable but I want each of the bridesmaids to wear matching wine colored open toed heels with nude pantyhose.
Several of the girls have complained, but the dresses are knee length and I want the pictures and rest of the evening to be perfect. Am I asking too much?
2007-05-28 10:36:27 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Unless there is a platform and a reinforced runner you may be asking a lot for all of you. Walking in heels normally makes our feet redistribute weight as we are walking and it may make the shoes gets stuck in the sand. Not to mention you might all be unbearably hot in hose on the beach. Some shoes are necessary but three inch heels seems dangerous.
2007-05-28 10:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 10⤊ 1⤋
Bridesmaids Heels
2016-11-12 05:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're talking about wedges, I'd say that should be fine. If you're talking about the thin, stiletto-type heels, you might want to reconsider the logistics of having a bunch of girls walk in sand in heels. The heels will sink into the sand, and the girls will trip or at least have trouble walking. If your main concern is how everything looks, imagine how it will look to have your bridesmaids falling on their way down the aisle. Also, I'm fairly certain they'll get sand in their pantyhose, and that's going to make for some seriously uncomfortable bridesmaids. I'd say skip the pantyhose and give them all sunless tanner to make their legs look evenly tan, and find some wine-colored, open-toe wedges instead of regular heels.
I just got married 5 months ago, so I totally sympathize with wanting everything to look perfect... I'm just envisioning your bridesmaids sinking into the sand if they wear heels, and that would look way worse than them not wearing the shoes of your dreams.
2007-05-28 11:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You either need to revise the location or revise the footwear. You are definately bieng a bridezilla on this one. Besides how perfect are your pictures going to be if they are all of uncomfortable looking people fishing their shoes out of the sand and tripping? At least let them take the heels off for the sand portion. It will be impossible to walk and the shoes will fill with sand quickly because of the open toes. There are plenty of gorgeous flat shoes that would be much more suitable for walking in sand. You can always have them put the shoes on for the formal portraits, nobody is going to be concentrating on their feet during the ceremony. They will be looking at you.
If you insist on making them wear heels at the entire reception you should also be prepared to be the only one dancing too. I understand that you have a "dream wedding" picture, but is part of that dream bieng a bad party where everybody leaves early because they are uncomfortable and it goes down as the worst wedding they have ever been to?
2007-05-28 11:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes you are asking too much.
For a beach wedding on the sand, you & your wedding party should be barefoot. Walking in the sand with shoes on will invite the sand into the shoes, thus making the wearer uncomfortable, irritable & whiny.
I hope your wedding party has the funds to fly to Hawaii to be with you. If not, move the location to a local beach. Or you'll need to pay for everything, including hotel fees, rental cars & dining.
It's hot & humid in Hawaii too. Pantyhose will make your bridesmaids & maid/matron of honor even hotter, despite the ocean breeze(s).
For the pictures, I can see wanting the formality of shoes. If the pictures are being taken on the beach before and/or after the wedding, then remain barefoot. If you're having pictures done before being on the sand, then use the shoes. Your gift to your bridesmaids & maid/matron of honor could be pedicures the night before or the day of your wedding to ensure nice looking feet.
I've attended a few beach weddings. All but one insisted on shoes, even on the sand. Most people, me included, slipped off my shoes & wiggled my toes in the sand. Midway through that wedding, almost everyone was barefoot & the bride was furious at her guests, voicing her displeasure several times. Most of us no longer speak to her now.
If that's your goal, then by all means, demand the above mentioned things at your wedding. See how many people complain & stay in touch after you get married.
2007-05-28 10:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by Belle 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Congrats on your upcoming wedding. And in Hawaii - WOW it will be beautiful.
My wedding ceremony is on the beach as well...in June...in Florida. What we have decided to do, because it's so hard to walk in the sand with shoes (and hose, the sand gets in but hard to get out without taking them off), we have decided that for the ceremony everyone (including the guests) will be barefoot. After the ceremony the bridal party will get their pictures and what not, then we will all take a few minutes to clean off our feet and then put on our hose and shoes for the reception.
Hope that helps maybe.
Have fun!!
2007-05-28 11:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by KCB 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that you should make the girls wear pantyhoes or heels. I mean think of the sand getting in the pantyhoes, and it will just look stupid wearing heels in the sand because they are just going to sink in. I went to a beach wedding this past summer and the bridesmaids didn't wear any shoes and the groomsmen wore sandals, it was sooo cute! So I would vote for no shoes or less formal non heeled shoes for the actual wedding, and then they could wear your dream heels at the reception.
2007-05-29 05:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
There might be issues with you and the girls walking on the beach (Very uneven ground), and I would not want someone falling down the asile, because that you make a terrible picture. What about if they wore the shoes for the pictures and walked barefoot on the beach. A beach wedding does sound really cool, Good Luck!
2007-05-29 05:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by Becky 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I normally would say it's your wedding so do what you want. However, is the ceremony going to be in the sand? Are you and they going to have to actually walk/stand in the sand? If so, then you need to let them wear dressy flipflops/thong type shoes with a small, wide heel or barefoot. It really becomes a safety issue....I can just see one of them falling and twisting her ankle because it is impossible to walk in heels in the sand! If the ceremony ISN"T in the sand, then I say your way is perfect.
2007-05-28 11:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by emrobs 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I personally would never ask someone to wear stockings and heels at the beach unless they were going to be on a pier or platform. If you will be in the sand, it's gonna get EVERYWHERE, including in your stockings and between your toes, which will be VERY uncomfortable! Plus, walking in sand with heels that high will be a nightmare. You will be sinking and I'd be willing to bet someone's gonna fall. Instead of white stockings, go with no stockings at all. Sandals would be fine, just go with a shorter heel...maybe 1.5" rather than 3".
2007-05-28 13:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by loyerd6 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋