I met an orthodox Jewish girl that I'm very attracted to. She says she cannot date me because I am not Jewish,

Question

but we can definitely be friends. What do you think the chances are that we will ever get physical, since I can see by the way she looks at me that she is attracted to me? If we start hanging out, going to museums and talking on the phone, etc?

Answer 1

buddy I am telling you now your only going to hurt yourself if you go down this path.

If you do not feel you can "just friends" then I strongly suggest you walk away.

Answer 2

mmmmmm...depends on how orthodox she is.
I can say probably nothing will happen no matter how much she's attracted to you.

Sorry to say but it probably won't happen at all. The Orthodox jews are very traditional and exact and they will not convert nor marry outside their faith. She will not even date outside her faith. Even if you two tried this i can say with fair cerntinty that it wouldn't work.

her family would NOT accept you by any means and you in the end if you wanted to marry her would have a lot of headaches. You'd have to convert and even then they will not be thrilled with you.

Look up the orthodox jewish religion. I personally LOVE it but I know i'd never date a guy who's jewish because it wouldn't work. I'm christian and would never convert and their laws are so finite and strict.

their dietary laws alone are so strict you CANNOT have milk products and meat in the same meal let alone on the same plate that must always be seperate and each dish washed seperatly.

You can't eat pork of any kind, i like my baccon to mcuh for that, on saturdays you are forbidden to use any modern convience so you WALK everywhere or you dn't go out. And when married the man must grow a full beard and the women shave thier heads and ware a wig (now the wig thing is VERY stict orthodox)

but as you can see it's not just a religion it's a life syle and she lives it. You might find that very constraining so think long and hard before leaping.

But just based on what you wrote above sounds like she's strict with herself too and probably won't ever date a non-jew.

Answer 3

Trust me, if she says she can't date you for religious reasons, you may as well kiss her goodbye as a lover. Unless, you feel strong enough about her to adopt her religion. If this is the case, go see a local Rabbi and ask what it takes to convert. But, make sure you ask her first if she would reconsider if you convert. Some jewish peoples are stricter than others. Some will consider a relationship with a converted jew. Others won't. And be sure that you really are willing to adopt Judaism 100%, not just in name in order to get her. She's obviously totally serious about it, and you should be, too. The only way to find out is to ask her where she stands on this. If she is willing to entertain the idea of dating you if you convert, then the next step is to ask her to help you with your Jewish studies. If she won't date even if you convert, then I suggest looking for your dream mate elsewhere. But, by all means, if she's a nice lady and you like her, keep her as a close friend. Good luck.

Answer 4

well joe why dont you just ask her out somewhere JUST as friends..then do sweet things for her until you might have a idea if she likes you or not . then somewhere neer the end ask her if she would like to do this again sometime but as something a little more...

Answer 5

I think you should be friends, but her religion is going to come between you if you go beyond that. Orthodox Judiasm is very, very strict.

Answer 6

i'm a conservative jew, so i understand where she's coming from. her family may not approve of a non-jewish boyfriend, and thats something you'll ahve to live with unless you start a romeo and juliet-esque relationship. i say good luck and try to be only good friends and maybe one day her views will change.

Answer 7

0% dude, ur not Jewish!

Answer 8

it wont happen