What does it mean when you dream that a dead love one wasn't really dead?

Question

I keep having dreams about my ex, who died several years ago. I dream that he come back from the dead and wants to pick up our realationship from where he left off. He always tell me that he never really died and sometime he says that there was no way for him to reach me to tell me he was really alive, and other times I find out that he fake his death in exchange for another life with another wife/children/family and that he was sorry and wanted me and our kids back. I always feel confused in these dreams and never quite happy to have him back. What does these dream mean? He wasn't the best husband but he was the best freind that I have ever had. I want to dream happy dreams of him. How do I get rid of these dreams?

Answer 1

Dreaming of 'dead' people often means that the emotional and psychological impact of their lives isn't 'dead' in our own. In other words, just because the person is dead doesn't mean all the issues that you have with that person are. Thus, your mind 'resurrects' them in order for you to work out what it is you feel towards them.

It could be your ex is 'saying' the things you wanted him to say in real life. It could also mean that your brain is trying to tell you that just because a person dies doesn't mean that the meaning they had in your life is dead as well. One could very easily say that death is simply an extended version of the break-up or leaving; just as when you break-up with someone, you still have to deal with the aftermath, so to does it apply when someone dies. In both cases, the journey through the relationship is still a personal one.

It is also quite obvious that, because he wasn't the best husband, that the issues of him being your husband are getting in the way of your ideas of him as your best friend. In other words, the stuff he did while he was your husband are still your dominant thoughts, not the stuff he did to make you feel like he was your best friend. We can't have happy dreams of someone if we think of them as 75% bastard and 20% nice guy and 5% victim. The dominant emotion is still the 75% bastard.

It could be that you are still pissed at him for dying and not resolving any of the issues you had between yourselves. Thus, the dreams become a way for your mind to have those discussions so you can get the closure. Again, just because they are dead doesn't mean that their impact dies as well, but that does mean that it becomes our responsibility to find what we need to fill that end of the conversation. Also, until we work out enough of the 'bad' dominant percentage, there is no way we can start to remember, or even contemplate, the good percentage that they did contain.

Even the best of people screw up our lives, intentionally or not. If we can't bring them our hate, then we certainly can't give them our love either, and vice versa. So, don't be afraid that having it out with your ex (in your dreams or your heart) is going to lose the love/friendship you had. The love and friendship is tied inextricably with the failure. Acknowledge the failure to the depth that you feel it, and the rest will come naturally.

Answer 2

Wow this is kind of weird. Do you just love her so much and are thinking if she died you would be devastated. You're question is too vague. My mom made me kiss my dad in his coffin and I did not want to I will tell you right now I was 27 and he was 46 so I was not a kid it didn't screw up my life but this might change everyone's mind ...I could litterly smell dirt....just like fresh dirt from outside It still stays with me. Maybe you will think twice now!

Answer 3

If as you say he is truly dead,then you have some unresolved issues concerning him,this is where I think your problem lies.At night YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS GOES WILD,because of what you hate to release(your ex:)

Answer 4

no it does not you just love them and just had a dream.

Answer 5

you wish he was still alive.