I'm a 38 years old man, 5'7. I really never had a girfriend in my entire life. People say that i'm a good looking, nice, and sweet guy. but can never get to close. i've been rejected many times and even online dating didn't work out. i always hear the usual stuff from women! no attraction, no chemistry, can't envision ourseves together, and you not my type! I feel my life is empty with no love around. i'm a very romatic, down to earth guy and its too bad that i will not get to find that elusive thing called love. I started too believe that i'm a loser, suck so bad, and maybe should just quit. a wizard told me once that i should never get too close or i will burn. i wonder if he was right coz this always been the case with me even when it comes to family and friends, always fights when i become clsoe with them.
2007-05-28 08:43:18 · 26 answers · asked by knightlove 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like you are feeling a bit sorry for your self
try been a bit more macho, get out and say to nights the night the birds will fall at my feet .
make it happen instead of thinking no one likes me
2007-05-28 08:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of height.. sometimes you have to kiss a whole lotta frogs before you get a prince.. or princess. Some girls actually like shorter guys. Heck you're only 3/4 of an inch shorter than me. If a girl won't date you SOLELY on your height, then she definitely isn't the right one for you. Maybe step back and take a good look at the ladies you are interested in. Are they the type to be shallow? Are you setting yourself up for failure because they are all air heads? To me, looks are secondary. It's about chemistry and commonality. Try finding a woman that shares your interests, then you'll have a nice starting point. And as for not getting to close, forget all of that. Live how you want to live. Get close when you are ready, don't let it become a self fulfilling prophecy. Good luck!
2007-05-28 08:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by mydragonmoon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard to generalize, because different people want different things, but maybe you are too nice? If you are so afraid of offending people, or of rejection, that you tend to stay quiet until you get to know someone, then maybe you come across as either too submissive (I.E.: butt-kisser) or too boring.
In general, women seem to prefer: (i) a guy who has a good sense of humor & who can make her laugh; and, (ii) a guy with self confidence. Sounds like you have neither, and you need to do something about that if you want a chance to have a girlfriend.
It may seem counter intuative, but if you are too nice, sometimes it comes across as manulipulative, or as fearful. No girl wants a coward for a boyfriend. And certainly no one wants someone who acts DESPERATE and/or NEEDY.
And learn to maintain good eyecontact when you talk. I know that it is hard, but almost nothing else makes you look more needy, more immature, and more wimpy than a guy who is afraid to look a woman in the eyes.
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2007-05-28 09:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that someone would put that into your head. I am even more sorry that you are convinced of it. The reason you don't have a relationship is probably because you are desperate to have one. Try to find some self help groups, 12 sytep groups are fantastic, work on your self esteem and know how to love yourself. If you get the right type of help I am sure everything will turn around for you. People aren't attacted to people that don't think much of themselves. Think about it. Get yourself a better self image and life will be good for you. There is someone out there for all of us.
2007-05-28 08:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the case yes you are to short. You should start going to sweet places that you know a girl would hang out. Perhaps a good clothing place,jewerly store,mall,and make sure you have money. The reason is a girl would want alot of things that are expensive. So take these tips and holla at me at jershonachandler@yahoo.com. Start sleeping alot and you will grow like me im 5"7 and 13 years old so im pretty tall for my age you i aint got nothing too say but holla at me at that adress.
Love Always,
Jershona
Shalise
Chandler
2007-05-28 08:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
don't lose the hope
look put in ur mind that there are a lot of girls that dream to marry u
its not about you are short or anything else
its because u who get away from dating and talking with girls because u fear that they will hurt ur feelings after that and they will reject u
trust urself , i am sure u have sweet personality , try to talk with girls and show them the true u , and i am sure they will like u
and soon u will find the girl that u will love and she will love u in return
but the most important thing is not to lose the hope
2007-05-28 08:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone fights with family and friends at one time or other. No one is too short, too ugly or even too fat to be loved. There is someone out there for you. Sounds like you are trying too hard, hon. Relax. The day will come and when it does, be ready. It will be a great ride!!!
2007-05-28 08:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May your trying to hard to find that one person that you want to settle down with but dont give up just give it some time and may it will come to you. In other words dont go looking for loving when your on a date but just enjoy the moment.
2007-05-28 08:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Dessert♦Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is definitely not height. Maybe you shouldn't listen to wizards. It's a weird thing to bring up in conversation, especially on a date. If you work on your self esteem and anger issues, it will make you more attractive. Therapy might help.
2007-05-28 08:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... 5'7" isn't that short.... A lot of women are 5'4" and if you wanna look taller, don't slouch.... A lot of men slouch and look shorter than they really are, if a 5'7" girl and a 5'7" guy walk together, the girl will look taller cause usually the guy has a bad posture and slouch. And I don't think 5'7" is short either....
2007-05-28 08:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋