I am totally irratated right now.....This guy and I have been hanging out recently. Anyways, he keeps telling me that he does not have a girlfriend. but I now know for a fact that he does. I am pissed that he has lied directly to my face. What should I do? Confront him and watch him lie some more? or should I not care....and just see what happens. Do guys ever dump their girlfriends for other girls? i don't want to be that girl who steals other people's boyfriends.
2007-05-28 08:17:54 · 25 answers · asked by Heeheheehee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Funny how we sometimes find ourselves in situations we initially swore we would never go into huh? I can totally relate. Sometimes its not even because we are totally into the guy, sometimes we just can't shun them for some unexplainable reason.
You know he's not being honest with you. Sometimes its because he might not want to let you go, so he'll say anything to make you stay. Which sounds kinda sweet (in a twisted kind of way) but it's really not a road you wanna go into. In the long run, a guy who can be like that this girlfriend can also do the exact same thing to you if you do end up being with him.
History has a horrible way of repeating itself and I'm sure you'll want too kick yourself in the head when that does happen.
Endpoint is, you deserve better. Be with a guy who has clear and honest relationships and knows how to cut clean. If he really had the best intentions and feelings for you, he wouldve been upfront about everything right now. He would not deny his girlfriend and he certainly will not put you in a situation that makes you feel like you are the "other" woman. That is not indicative of someone who truly cares about you.
Would you really want to waste your time waiting for the answer from a guy who can lie to your face like that? You should feel loved, not confused.
2007-05-28 08:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by mgirl88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to your own question, and you seem to know that you deserve much better than this loser is willing to give to you or anybody else for that matter. The fact that you're even asking this question is a pretty good indicator that you don't trust this guy. You are already aware of the fact that he's lying to you, his girlfriend, and possibly to other girls besides the two of you. I get the feeling that the problem really is that anytime you're around him, he manages to manipulate the situation and smooth talk his way into your life again. You apparently don't want this b/c you already stated that you don't want to be the girl who steals other people's boyfriends. I think that even in the extreme unlikelihood that you would go for this guy, you really don't have a guarantee that he won't pull on you what he's already doing to his own girlfriend! Go ahead and confront him, but only long enough to tell him you're done with his BS and get the heck out of there before he can talk you into doing otherwise. You deserve better!!!
2007-05-28 15:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes guys do dump girls for other girls, but some of them don't have the balls to do it so they wait it out to see what will happen.
He;s obviously interested in you, tell him you know he has a girlfriend and it's either you or her.
No need to be stealing her boyfriend, it's plain and simple like that, if he chooses to lie his way out of it, tell his girlfriend about it and that should solve his lying problem very quickly, although he;'ll probably lie to her baout it too.
2007-05-28 15:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jorge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have enough self respect for yourself to walk away. It's not o.k. to be a second choice or backup plan. What would confronting him do? He will either lie more, or get defensive. What are you trying to prove to yourself by confronting him. If you have enough confidence, you'll know someone who lies and cheats on his girlfriend is not on your level, so you quickly exit the situation...besides, what are you striving to be? The girlfriend that he's cheating on? Do you really want to take his girlfriend's place? You don't need a man to give you stress, trust me, you can give yourself stress on your own.
2007-05-28 15:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lioness 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never lower yourself to become the "other woman." If he lies to you he will always lie to you. Guys always dump their girlfriends for other girls because if one want there are always some that will. The best thing you can do is send him on his way.
2007-05-28 15:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Al Feel GoodH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is lying to you now- won't he lie to you in the future?
If he leaves his girlfriend for you- won't he do the same to you in the future?
If he is making you "pissed" now- won't he make you just as "pissed" in the future?
Guys rarely dump their girlfriends for other girls. I went through this with a guy a few years back. He had a g/f and told me he was unhappy. He kept telling me to give him time, give him time, give him time to dump her- and he never did.
I never slept with him, thank God, but he called me months later and said he HAD to see me. I said, "You broke up with her?" He said, "No.... we're getting married."
It's a waste of time and if he's that wishy washy with people's hearts? You need to move on and find someone that won't do that to you.
Be strong sista! There are plenty of fish in the sea that are swimming single.
Let this guy hang himself.
You don't need to be any part of it.
Good luck!!!!
2007-05-28 15:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Miss M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call him on it and leave him alone. If he's lying to you about having a girlfriend, then he obviously doesn't care enough about you or else he would dump his girlfriend and be with you only. This other girl means more to him then you do. Deal with it and let the loser go.
2007-05-28 15:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by It's Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its best not to be with a liar.. and since you don't care anymore... y not make him lie a little more and catch him red handed. Then get urself a better guy/stay single rather than wasting ur time on a liar. Remember, there is no use correcting him.. best is get rid off him as fast as u can.
2007-05-28 15:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by bjxtreme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the other girl and you are letting yourself be. This guy is a user and he will lie to you just like he is lying to his girlfriend. Tell him to find someone else to use. You deserve alot better than that.
2007-05-28 15:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys dump their girlfriends for other girls all the time . You answer your own question in your question. If this loser is lying to you about his girlfriend, he is also lying to her about you. Date him and you become the girl getting lied to about the next piece of tail this loser is trying to pick up. Treat yourself to a little dignity and self respect and lose the loser! Good luck I think your going to need it.
2007-05-28 15:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋