i broke up with my long term boyfriend (a) because i had to choose between him and boy b. after the break up i suggest we be friends and he said ok. we been friends for the past 3 days and everything is ok but half the time when we talk he sounds sad ,start talking about the past(our relationship) and askes me if we could get back. all this makes me feel guilty and makes me wonder if i did the right ro what. i have tried my best to explain to him why i took that decision/made that choice and he tells me he understands but it doesn't seem like he understands. what should i do?
2007-05-28 07:54:04 · 18 answers · asked by lil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy obviously loved you and you've hurt him alot! I don't understand fully why you left him but, don't just get back with him because your feeling guilty, this will lead to both of you living a lie and you being unhappy.
You should do what you want to do. You obviously don't want to be with him any longer if you have left him!
In the long run, I think you should take a break from chatting to this guy because you are only reminding him of how much he loves you and not giving him time to get over you and meet other people!
Good Luck!
2007-05-28 09:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... let him be, guys can't be just friends with someone they have been in love with..., especially if they still love that person. You're being selfish for keeping him next to you.
Second... he's just playing his cards with you - you told him you could be friends, so he is, sharing his feelings with you, hoping, emotionally blackmailing you and all... So, again, better keep the distance.
You just have to ask yourself again what are the reasons for splitting up with him - were they right or not? Ignore all the puppy eyes and rewind the feelings and thoughts you had before the break up. That should help you get to the right conclusion
2007-05-28 15:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by Michaela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's jus upset that you to are no longer bf/gf anymore. Its going to take the time and whether or not u think u did the right thing, time will only tell. But mayb just not hang out as much as you guys are doing. This is a tough situation for the both of you and give it some time. If its ment to be than its ment to be just relax.
2007-05-28 15:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you broke his heart what do you expect? You can't do anything about it. It's hurting him alot since you guys were dating for a long time and the both of you shared great things.
You might as well stop talking to him if you don't want to see him in pain. He'll understand later on.
2007-05-28 14:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop talking to him for a little while; if you're already doubting yourself after 3 days of talking to him, it will only get worse as the days go by. ...and talking to him will not help things if you do not want him back...Let him know that he deserves to be with someone who is interested in him "that way", and that as his friend you need to stop talking to him as much as you do for a little while...
2007-05-28 15:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by SND123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't want to get back together with him, you must tell him firmly, dont be nasty, last thing you want is a fight. but just lay down the facts for him.
and if he explodes, dont get mad at him. he obviously still likes you, so just be understanding. after all, you did end the relationship, not him.
Good Luck
XxX
2007-05-28 14:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Monkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha this happened to me!!!!! she broke up with me and i wanted to be friends but that is all we talked about too. so we stopped talking for like 2 months and now we are cool. she was my best friend and i couldnt just let her go so we took a break from eachother b4 we got on eachother's nerves. it gets better but you need space to get over it.
2007-05-28 15:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by herbertj2686 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont allow him to guilt trip u into being back with him, if you are not happy with him then dont get back with him. my mum said to me when i was in a similar position... "do you want to hurt his feelings which he will get over soon enuf, or do u want to be unhappy for the rest of ur life" dont be a victim, if u donot want this relationship donot be forced into it
xxx
2007-05-28 15:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs Lewis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him heal... Disappear 4 a few days and see what happens
2007-05-28 15:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont compromise your decision other you will be heading nowhere be strong/firm on your feet and everything will be fine.Just explain clearly once more.
2007-05-28 15:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋