I find myself getting sick and tired of trying to understand. One is there for them. But then they get their dumb a**es in trouble, one has to get them out of that. And still do they learn? No. It's like one has to be watching them like one would a small child. And I am getting fed up with it. Also they are in such a rush to get out of the house. Now, with no job no place to live. One knows they are just gonna do something stupid and end up coming back. To mommy and daddy. At times like these don't you just wish they would leave already?
2007-05-28 07:32:33 · 4 answers · asked by ? 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes i know how you feel mine finally got out of the house and boy am I glad . although they are 23 and 25 have their own homes now . I can only imagine how you feel . i did wish several times over they would just go . good luck
2007-05-28 07:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 5 girls that are 21, 18, 17, 15 & 12. My oldest always wanted to get out of the house! she sometimes got into trouble in high school and she'd get upset when she got punished. My husband and i are pretty leanent, letting the girls make their own decisions, but she use to push the limits. There were times when i just wished she'd leave the house so she could see what the real world was like, beyond the safety of my husband and i. Find out what would happen when you acted up and no one was there to back her up. By her senior year though, she started to grow up. She went through some battles with friends and some big changes for the better. Some teens just learn best the hard way. She went off to college a good plane ride away and after the first year, transfered so she could be closer to home. Now being home is all she wants to do!
Best wishes
2007-05-28 18:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jen Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly natural for a parent of a soon-to-be adult to wish for them to go, because you've been caring for them for their whole life! Don't you remember when you were 18 and, like your kids apparently, wanted to go live on your own. You wanted to be free and independant? Well, your feeling the same thing now, but kinda different. Trust me, once your kids go off to college or start a job, you'll be wanting them back. Just like how you wanted to go back to your parents when you were young. As for some advice and with them getting in trouble and wanting to live on their own, do an experiment: tell them that they are free to do as they please and whatever. You can basically ignore them for a week. Your kids will be happy at first, but then, when they really need you and you're not there, they'll come crawling back to you. Just love them, and things'll be alright!
2007-05-28 14:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are just sick and tired of your kids. Which I just don't understand. They're your children, you've got them for life. Along with everything that comes with them, yeah you can't support them forever financially, or let them stay with you forever. But have you really tried being in their shoes. I'm sure in their eyes you're not perfect either. Just be a good mom!
2007-05-28 14:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy of 2 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋