I'm getting married on June 2nd...but somehow, my feelings for my fiance have quickly died out over the past few days. One morning I woke up and my feelings for him were no longer what they were. I knew he was the one after just a few dates, and we have a GREAT relationship...but I don't want it anymore. There isn't another guy, but I need to tell my fiance before the wedding, I don't want to leave him standing at the alter. Help please!
2007-05-28 07:11:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not cold feet. I've talked to my friends that have gotten married and I know it's something different. It just doesn't feel like nerves. I don't want to marry him, something just...isn't there.
2007-05-28 07:17:56 · update #1
You had better have a hard long talk with him about this situation. Also, I strongly urge you to cancel the wedding before it's too late. There is just no sense in you being with the guy if you don't have any feelings for him. He might be very hurt by your actions, but I'm sure he would greatly appreciate your honesty.
2007-05-28 07:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You better be honest with him before your wedding. If your feelings for him have died and you dont' feel the same way as you did in the beginning it's best you tell him and tell him so you don't make the mistake of marrying him and then telling him because I think that would be worse. You need to tell him before your wedding. Don't make the mistake of telling him after you get married or don't leave him at the alter. Tell him now. He'll be crushed but he needs to know the truth.
2007-05-28 07:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, if you just woke up one morning and didn't feel it, it is most likely just cold feet. Talk to your fiance, let him know that your feelings might be changing or just cold feet, take some time to be without him, be yourself without the pressure of a man, a wedding to plan, or people to care about how your life effects them. Just really think about what you want and what will make you happy. Believe me, your mind and your heart like to play tricks on you when you are about to follow through a huge decision like this.
2007-05-28 07:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by sweets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is truly the best policy.
this is a very difficult situation to be in. you don't want to be trapped in a loveless marriage yet you don't want to hurt your fiance. either way, someone is going to get hurt, but from life experience, you cannot live your life to protect others. sometimes you have to come first, and this is one of those times. you have to live with the decision so it's simple: tell your fiance how you are feeling and go with what will feel right in the long run.
i had to get out of a relationship recently. i just didn't feel comfortable and although we were really close and i knew he would be hurt, i ended it. he did some stupid things to try and get me back, but i am strong and i know what i need.
it'll be okay if you just follow your heart.
2007-05-28 07:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him i know it will hurt like a son of a Bi*ch but it will be better for you and him if you end this before your wedding day tell him your sorry and give him some room to figure his "shattered" life out but also tell him that you can still friends unless he thinks otherwise
this is the best advice i have hope it helps
i never have had love like that but just go with what ever happens and just be sure that this is what you want cause if you change your mind later he might not want you back or he will be so depressed that he couldnt take you back
2007-05-28 07:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jacob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep....that's going to be one hard conversation to have, but a vital one. You can't go through with the wedding just because you don't want to express how you feel. You wouldn't want him to do that either. The sooner you tell your fiance the better. It will probably require a period of seperation before the two of you are able to be civil, but in time he will respect your decision and your straightforwardness. Good Luck
2007-05-28 07:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings couldn't have disappeared over a few days. It had to have taken longer then that and you just didn't notice or is it COLD FEET? You need to tell him now!!! Don't wait, June 2nd is nearing.
2007-05-28 07:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just woke up one morning and no longer loved him? Sounds like you may just be getting cold feet. Relax and think about what you are doing.
2007-05-28 07:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your running out of time..If your not sure about your feelings you need to call off the wedding! i would really take him out and talk to him about this because you do want to make sure you are making the right decision, because if you decide later you are not he may not give you another chance. I would talk to him immediately.....good luck!
2007-05-28 07:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by Kablina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u serious!
well remember in the inside that you have to tell him eventually and right now would be a good time before you guys both stand at the alter
2007-05-28 07:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by abercrombie lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋