So heres the 411: I've been going out w/ my friend Joe for almost 2 months now. Its been great but i feel like i'm leading him on. He sorta smuthers me from my best friend(friend thats a girl) and demands my attention 24/7. He is also taking things way to fast ie: "i want to marry you" (we're 14). I liked him when I first agreed to go out w/ him, but now i think my feelings have changed. I've always sorta liked this other guy(my best guy friend), but my best friend (the girl one) now likes him. (MY LIFE IS A FREAKING SOAP OPERA!!!) Any advice on how to dump his ****, and how fast??? Cause his b-day is the 31st of May, (also the last day of school), I need to get this OVER WITH!!!!
2007-05-28 06:18:27 · 25 answers · asked by Bee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest with him. If you were on the other end of the breaking-up-stick.. wouldn't you want to be laid down softly?
It's not easy, but be honest with him and be honest with yourself. Don't dump him if it's just because you think you can grab your girl friend's interest--your other crush. Sometimes grass isn't greener on the other side--sometimes it is.
Also think & step back for a minute. Will you be sabotaging your relationship with your best girlfriend? Who is more important to you? The answer should be: You're most important to yourself.. but don't jump the trigger and create a mess with everyone. There is a reasonable way to handle everything(and also be honest with your best girlfriend as well--you still have the hots for that other guy too!.)
2007-05-28 06:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by brownebloke 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him and don't go out with the other guy. You are 14 and that is too young to be thinking about a long term relationship. You are too young to be having a Soap Opera lifestyle. You'll end up pregnant without a husband and no education. Living with mom so the baby can be fed. Unable to pick the guy you really want for a husband because single guys don't want a woman with a child. Not exactly the girl to bring home to mom.
Why not - SLOW DOWN - tell the guys to back off - get an education and then decide on the best guy possible so you can have a lifetime of happiness.
Don't live your mother's life.
I know this will shock some of you, but more and more women are staying single and getting a career and deciding against marriage and children all together. Or they are finishing college and picking a college man so they can have a better life than their mother. Poor children go to college every day. They have college grants for the poor. If you want a better life for yourself, you can surely have it. Just decide to have a better life. There is no time like the present for you.
2007-05-28 13:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say to Joe, I like you a lot, but I'm not ready for this kind of a commitment. I think I'm too young to be in a serious relationship right now. Don't ask to be just friends, guys hate that. And, don't do it on his birthday! That's just cruel. Definitly do it in person, phone calls and ims are impersonal and cold. Just tell him that all this is too much, and you would rather end it now, than hold on and hurt him even more. Good luck. What a tricky situation.
2007-05-28 13:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're too young to date. At the rate you're going, your life is gonna be way out of control in a very short time. You're making a lot of mistakes. Stop the dating. Now. You should not give in to your bf's demands and you are much, much too young to start having sex which is the next problem you will be facing. I bet he's already putting pressure on you to give him sex. All you have to say is "I want to have some time to myself." Don't let him talk you into doing anything stupid. If you don't get back control of your life.........the future doesn't look too good. You're plalying with fire.
2007-05-28 13:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by wildflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the exact same situation. My ex-boyfriend was doing the same thing. Yeah, and I'm only 15. I'm sure that he doesn't mean to make you feel uncomfortable, but, if you are, you owe it to yourself to break up with him. Be kind enough to at least do it in person, though. Let your friend find out what kind of a guy he is, hey, maybe she likes guys like that.
2007-05-28 13:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Cassie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that your feelings have changed, and that you would like to be only friends.
I wouldn't use "now that summer is here..." or "now, that school is out..." as he may take it that you just want a break over the summer, and get back together next fall.
Don't drag this out, just break up with him.
2007-05-28 13:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Molly L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him, but tell him why (not the part about liking someone else, the part about him moving too fast and smothering you). And think about the other guy and how dating him would affect your friendship with your girlfriend. Maybe you should just remain friends with both of them for now.
2007-05-28 13:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by justme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break up.
Simply state: We are both too young to be this serious, and their are lots of other people we both be "hanging out" with that will help us both grow and develop.
Do it today, on the phone or in person...the sooner you begin this process the better you will feel.
Summer is here, you should not be this stressed at this stage of your life.
Good luck to you.
2007-05-28 13:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by Sportsguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u cud try talking this thru with him, tell him that ur not comfortable with how fast things r going but if u really want to dump him (and if u like this other guy u probably shud) at least wait till a week or two after his birthay and let him down gently cos he obviously likes u
2007-05-28 13:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just do it if you want to be friends in the future you need to do it now and Quicly so that you're not just dragging him along for the ride...and about the other guy ive been in that situation sooo many times before...theres really nothing you can do
2007-05-28 13:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋