What do I eat to lose weight? I'm 120lbs and 5'5". My husband said I should be 105lbs.?

Question

I used to be 105lbs before baby. Now i'm 120lbs with 2 years old son. I got a huge stomach left and big tight and big hip. But my upper body is still skinny and but of course no breast after 15 months of breastfeeding....... What should i eat. Can i eat just oat everyday?

I'm an asian.

Answer 1

How about getting rid of your husband and eleminating 180 ugly pounds quickly.

Answer 2

Aww hun, you poor thing! You don't need to lose weight at all, and as long as you're happy with how you look then that's all that matters. I've been in a relationship with someone who wanted me to lose weight and I was going anorexic at the time and I lost 16 pounds and went down to just under 6 stone.. I'm quite small anyway so you can imagine I was really unhealthily thin, and it's not a good road to go down. You sounds like an incredibly active and healthy person so don't you worry about whether you should lose weight. I personally think you're a perfect weight for your heigh, and after all only dogs like bones! Your husband, although he is a lovely guy when you're night on the subject of your weight etc, I just don't think you should have to live with someone who talks to you like that frequently. I broke up with my long term boyfriend because of this reason, and because he never listened to why it hurt me so much. Maybe try confronting your husband about this the next time he makes a stab at you. Stay strong and true to what you think and never let anyone tell you how you feel, as only you know that. You could always go for marriage councilling as it would be good for your husband to hear a second opinion from a professional who will definitely agree with you and tell him that he can't speak to you so degradingly. Hope this has helped love, and i wish you the best of luck! If your husband doesn't listen to you or doesn't make an effort with councilling or whatever, then I'd leave him. You're still young and you only live once! If you stay with someone you're unhappy with, then before you know it you will be an old woman still stuck in an unhappy marriage for the whole of her life. Good luck babe, you're strong and you'll know what's best for you. Xxx

Answer 3

Sound like you need a new husband.... You can lose weight, you can't undo all the changes childbearing has made. It is part of becoming a Mom. You husbands part is to accept you as you are... If you were in a car accident and crippled would he say you shouldn't be?.... Would he accept that?.... What happened to "For better or worse, in sickness and health" etc. ?

He needs to get his act together. Much of your body will "recover" but not overnight and not if you over eat etc. But much will never go away.

Yea, I know. There are women out there that just seem to bounce back and look like they are 16 all over again. They are the oddballs. Most do not, nor should they.

Take care of yourself, Love your baby and your husband. With some luck he will mature "quickly" and love you as you are. Your motivation to "lose the baby fat" will be greater if he will do that.

As for your breasts.... they are what they are...

There is no great benefit to your baby for breast feeding beyond 6 months. Your child is on solid food by now. Time to wean off the breast.
It will help your weight too.... The hormonal changes needed in you can't start till the baby is weaned off breast milk. Your body is still in the baby mode.

Answer 4

hon, I know this is not what you want to hear, but you are fine. You had a baby. You do not have to lose weight. You want to tone. That is all. Find some good exercises you can do and still be a mom. Walking is good for everybody.
And forgive me for saying this dear, but your husband is a moron. Is he in perfect shape? and did he just have a baby? Too bad if he doesn't think you are the right weight. You are. You are even a bit skinny for your height.. Just do some good toning exercises. And you will soon be doing a lot of bending anyway, picking up toys the little one will have everywhere.
Eat a good balanced diet, not too much salt, not much sugar; veggies and fruits are great. And a serving of meat the size of a cassette tape (the old ones you used to listen to music on). And drink lots of water. That makes your body function better.

Answer 5

The first and best way to burn fat is to modify your current diet. There are three simple ways
you can begin to modify: reduce calories, reduce sodium, and reduce fat. For example, by substituting a glass of
water for a carbonated beverage, you can cut approximately 150 calories or more, depending on how much is consumed.
Even if it were fruit juice instead of water, you would still reduce calories by approximately 50 - 100..
what causes these unwanted gains in weight and bodyfat? There are three possible reasons this can happen:
(1) Eat late at night (2) Exceed your normal caloric intake (3) Lack of exercise or physical activity.
best way to speed up the metabolism is by increasing meal frequency. Instead of eating 2 - 3
meals per day, try eating 4 - 5 small meals per day, or 3 meals and 2 healthy snack meals.
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Answer 6

Although you want your husband to be happy, the most important thing is that your happy.

As far as the diet, Increase your vegetable intake, and decrease the fat and red meat intake.If you do need something sweet eat fruit and Crystal Light has great sugar free drinks.

The next step would be to do cardio 30 minutes a day. Break a sweat but don't be out of breath.

Last, tell your husband to layoff.

Answer 7

Your husband is an idiot! Your weight is not bad but if YOU are uncomfortable with your body, put the little guy in the stroller and go for a walk every day. Get a ab work out video for nap time. Just eat healthy and if you are like i was when I had little ones your skip too many meals. Eat small meals of good food all day.

Answer 8

you shouldn't drop down to 105 lbs, that would be considered underweight for your height. Use the BMI calculator below if you want to see for yourself but 120lbs is considered normal. Everyone's body reacts differently and as long as you eat healthy you'll be fine...that means:
fruits
veggies
some carbs
some dairy
etc
check out mypyramid.gov for some good advice

also exercise to help tighten up

good luck!

Answer 9

you need to exercise to tighten the skin, weight loss alone will just leave you smaller but still with saggy skin. Is your husband supportive, get him to exercise with you as a gym buddy (at home or at the gym if you have time). Exercise will also help raise your energy levels, helping you to continue the exhausting challenge (but a great one) of bringing up your son.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Are you kidding? You're at a perfect weight!!! I'm 5`5 and I weight 125! Tell your damn husband to lose 15 pounds.