My fiances friend has just announced that he is getting married 1 week before we are and my fiance is expected to be the best man! This couple have only been dating for three months and their wedding is in three months. They have known for a year when our wedding date is. I think this is rude. Is it?
2007-05-28 05:05:41 · 31 answers · asked by KikiM110 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think its rude. If they knew when your wedding date was I think they should have planned a little more time in between. Not only because I think thats just plain rude to begin with, but a week before your wedding you guys are going to be stressed enough just making sure you have every little detail planned out....now you have to stress about him being in someones wedding and yours all at the same time. I would have your fiance tell the friend, since he is supposed to be the best man, that he can't do it a WEEK before his own wedding...see what the friend says. But I think its complete crap that they are doing that....thats just my personal opinion.
2007-05-28 05:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 4 · 4⤊ 3⤋
You can call it rude, it certainly is inconsiderate. And thick-headed, to think your fiance is "expected" to be best man. If he wants to he will, but I would say you don't have to feel bad about skipping every event they have, if it doesn't fit in with your schedule.
A consideration is, are many of the guests going to be the same? Lots of mutual friends? If so, you get the short end. That stinks for you. Yes they are rude. If there are 30 days in a month they could just as easily had their wedding the week after yours as the week before.
2007-05-28 07:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think they chose their wedding date to be rude to you. Perhaps this was the best time for them to get married and for the families to attend. Some couples do not want to have a year or longer engagement. There is also no rule that says you can not get married at a certain time because someone else they are friends with is.
I do think, however, to "expect" your fiance to be the best man is a little inconciderate. You two will be so busy with your plans!
2007-05-29 11:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by nyyankeegirl2399 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, it's a little rude, but instead of being angry about that, worry that their marriage probably won't make it 10 years. They don't know each other, and are rushing everything. Talk to the lady and have your fiancee talk to the man, and say you wish they'd take time to know each other because you are afraid their marriage won't last. The divorce rate among people who do like what they are doing is quite astronomical. Show them all of the statistics. If they won't listen, tell them you tried your best. If you don't support this wedding, DON'T be in the wedding party. At least this way you won't be lying by saying you support this whole thing. Maybe something will come up. Or plan something else completely that day.
2007-05-28 07:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Very rude. I wouldn't worry about missing any of their events. You have your own special day, which you had planned first. I would talk with your fiance about being the best man. That holds a lot of responsibilities that he might not have time for if he is getting married the week after. His friend has poor taste in etiquette. Sorry you have to deal with this. Good luck and congrats!
2007-05-28 06:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course not! You should be happy for the friend! I'm sure they weren't thinking of dissing you two in particular, but rather had their own reasons for choosing the date. However, your fiance has to really think long and hard about being the best man, because of the finances it will entail so shortly before your own wedding.
2007-05-28 08:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes but there's nothing you can do about it, except opt out. I'm guessing that's not actually an option so grin and bear it. If your fiance is in this wedding is the other guy in yours? He won't be back from his honeymoon in time to be in your wedding. Has anyone mentioned that to the couple?
2007-05-28 05:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes its very rude!! They should have more respect for your plans as well as their own. Weddings cost a lot of money and the best man has a lot of responsibilities. You should be able to focus on your wedding with out the pressure of a friend's wedding the week before.
2007-05-28 05:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by Heaven L 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I'm going to say that yes I do think that is rude. You both will be too busy putting the finishing touches on you own wedding to even begin to worry or participate in theirs.
2007-05-28 06:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is inconsiderate but i wouldn't be upset. Its different for a guy they don't have much involvement like bridesmaids do. When I got marriend my husband had no idea what was going on with our wedding until the day of. Good Luck!
2007-05-28 05:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jane 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋