i am 22 and my fiance is 25 and we have a 7 month old girl!! i am thinking about leaving him but i don't want him to not have any part in our little girl! he is the type who gets mad very easily. i know that if me and my little girl leave he is just goin to leave and move out of state and never speak to us again!! i need help!! should i stay just for the baby or what?
2007-05-28 04:33:04 · 7 answers · asked by ananda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Never stay for the sake of the child, it dosen't help the child or you. Let him go! Get the love and support of your family and leave him in your past and move on. There are plenty of men who you can find a loving relationship and you and your baby would be better off. Good Luck to You! p.s Make sure you get legal custody or he can take the baby out of state and there's not much you can do about it. It happened to a friend and she never saw her daughter again.
2007-05-28 04:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you young girls get in these messes? He will never marry you. You have no future with this guy, yet you let him get you pregnant. Why? Did you think you could hold him with a baby? I must ask these questions because I do not understand why young pretty girls are so dumb.
Did your mother ever tell you that often guys say, "Why buy the cow when the milk is free!"
Every guy wants sex. If you give him sex, why should he marry you or make a permanent life with you?
Do women realize that the more men that they have sex with the harder it is to stay happy with just one man? For this very same reason men mess around on their wives.
Abstinence for both the man and the woman makes for a more pleasureable sex life when they do marry.
Now - make a right decision. If you stay, make a good life for your child by getting married so you can leave a heritage for the child.
If you leave, stay single. The child needs only one father. Children do not like many fathers hanging around. All children want one mother and one father and NO MORE. Children hate mom's boyfriends. Children end up hating mom's husband and their step-father. Only a father and a mother can love the child correctly. No other person is welcome as far as the child is concerned. If it is the child's mother or father is giving the harsh punishment then they can understand it and benefit from it. If the harsh punishment comes from a step, then children resent it and it turns their little hearts against that person and they become angry.
Either stay with the father or don't get married until your child is 18 years old. Think about the child instead of yourself. So far all you have thought about is your pleasure. Now you have a child and you need to think about your child and not yourself. Self-centeredness is over.
2007-05-28 12:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....you should not stay in an unhappy relationship with the hope that the father will remain in your daughter's life.
If he is the type of person who would stop seeing his daughter just because your relationship did not work out, there is nothing you can do to change him. You can not change someone else's character.
Staying in a relationship for the sole reason of making sure that your child's father will be part of his daughter's life is not a good reason.
If you split up and he stops seeing your daughter, that would be tragic, but it is by no means your fault. It would be his bad decision, not yours.
2007-05-28 11:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by conim2002 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't stay just for the baby's sake it isn't good for either one of you and if when you do leave and the father does move and doesn't want anything to do with the baby then you know that he probably wouldn't have been there if you stayed with him make sure it is what you want to do and then go to the court system where you live and get them to make him pay child support for the baby make sure your baby comes 1st
2007-05-28 11:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by Stephani G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not stay just for the baby. How will you be able to make her happy if you are so miserable? If he moves out of state and has nothing to do with his littlw girl then he doesn't really love her.
2007-05-28 11:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never stay in a relationship because of the child. If your not happy, how can you expect your child to be happy?
2007-05-28 11:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't stay just for the baby, It will make you bitter and the baby will pick up on it.
2007-05-28 11:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋