ok for about 6 years now my step mom has complained that i have a badass attitude and that i piss her off everyday. well im 13 and i hate her. well my mom and dad have been divorced since i was 16 months old and ever since then my dad took care of me and my brother by himself. i gave all my mothers day stuff to my g-ma and havent gotten used to givin it to my step mom since and really i dont get her anything. well now she says she doesnt even care about me and that she knows i hate her and uses my mom against every ****** time i get in trouble. she talks bad bout her. well in like a week im goin to my blood mothers house and i think my step mom is jealous
just yesterday i think she tried to start a relationship with me... but i dont want one with her because i really do hate her with a passion.. what should i do?? ignore her, or try to build a relationship too??
2007-05-28 03:50:23 · 19 answers · asked by lind.say.le.anne. =] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to build a positive relationship with your stepmother. She is going to be in your life for a long time and you need to make peace with her. You don't have to love her, but you do need to get to the point where you like her and can have a good relationship with her. You must do it, first, for yourself, and secondly, for your family. There needs to be some peace and harmony in the family; otherwise your home is a nightmare to come home to for everyone. Why live like that when you can turn things around? If you love your dad, give him the gift of peace and harmony in the home.
Also, you need to stay out of trouble. You can't blame your stepmom for your actions if you get into trouble. You are responsible for yourself. Some of the decisions you might make today (drinking, drugging, smoking, sexual activitiy, breaking the law, getting bad grades) can cause you to have a very bad life. Be a winner and do winning things to be a success in life.
Be mature and talk to your stepmom. Tell her you want to turn your relationship around. Ask her what you can do to make things better. During the conversation, and without sounding accusatory, ask her to change some of her behaviors. For instance, let her know how much it hurts when she blames you for things and how doing that makes you hate her at times. I think if you can have some conversations with her and you both work on making the relationship better, you'll see some big changes and both of you will be much happier. I know it will make your dad much happier.
Good luck to you.
2007-05-28 04:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by majormomma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 13. That is such a tough age. Is there a specific reason your dad raised you instead of your blood mom? You have to get rid of the hate, and you do have an attitude, it is so apparent in your post. I have a 13 year old grandson, and if he used the language you have used in this post, I would be enraged. If this is the kind of attitude you have always displayed toward your step-mom, then I can see where she is coming from. You need to take a good look at yourself, and see what YOU can do to turn this around. She says she doesn't care about you, because you make it obvious that you don't care about her. Since you apparently aren't going to give on this one, you need to see if there is somewhere else you can live. I think it's a shame you can't try to change YOUR ways, and maybe your step mom will be a little nicer.
2007-05-28 04:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by che_rae_gra53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your young but try to under stand that coming into a family where you are already disliked and you having a bad attitude every day makes life not so great . try to sit and talk to her I'm sure you both can work this out . I have step children and I never talked bad about there mom ever that's there mom and she needs to stop doing that to you .Good luck wish you well with all of this
2007-05-28 04:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for your step mom- for having to have a stepson like you-- I bet her one wish in life- is that she would have had a better step-son.
Sounds like you don't want to get along with her- so, to tell you to build a relationship with her- it will go in one ear and out the other. I say -- if you hate her that much- move in with your real mom.. will be better for her- and you..
she didn't ask for this - as you didn't ask for this-- it should be 50/50.. you both need to try.
and YOU need to start being more respectful- because I'm sure she has been there more then you realize.
2007-05-28 04:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should not ignore her yet should you try to bulid a tight relationship just be friends and if the relationship happens to bulid by itself then fine jst tell her how you feel on a letter if its not ard to tell her face to face and at the end say i would like to be friends though and maybe try to give your stepmother a chance u never know what ur missing out on though but make sure you dont push your mom out the way
Sincerly,
Mz.squarepantz01
2007-05-28 03:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by mz.squarepantz01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time for you both to let bygones be bygones and start fresh. You never know, the hatred you feel towards her may be displaced anger. You may actually like her if you'd stop hating her. I suggest you give it a try, it will make your life a lot simpler if you and she can get along.
2007-05-28 03:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that she's being a two face for your dad and probably the reason she wants to build a relationship with you is to hurt you emotionally so it will really get to ya . So for the advice part try to give her the subtle cold shoulder
2007-05-28 03:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by Elena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,its your choice but a relationship with her would make your life a lot easier that don't mean you have to like her just try to get along with her. in the long run you never know you just might start liking her. give her a chance whats it gunna hurt:) Good Luck!!
2007-05-28 04:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by jessica s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel im 20 but when i was 12 i got a new step monster and she had a kid with my dad so therefor that kid better than us. so i just lived at my moms until i was 17 and then moved out and off to college. just ignore her we still fight and b itch everytime i go to see my dad but shes old now and kinda stupid so its no big deal
2007-05-28 03:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by greenman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, she's right. You do have a badass attitude. She'll probably breathe a sigh of relief when you're gone to your mother's.
I gotta feel sorry for your stepmom, having to deal with that.
2007-05-28 03:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋