I have a boyfriend and I we met when we were kids...and then I never knew anything about him because he and his family went to the united states for living definitely.
the situation is that 12 or 13 years later and that means 8 month ago, he contact me again (after all hese years, you know) and we started talking by phone (because he lives in the us of course) 5 months ago, he came here to the place I live (far away from the united states) to visit me and then we started a relationship...now, we`ve been a couple for 5 months eventhough we`re far away one of the other...the thing is that he says that he wants to marry me, that he is in love with me, that he doesnt want to lose me and thats why he wants to be with me forever...
The truth, I love him as well, Im in love with him. how could I be in love with a person who lives in another country? I dont know, but he is a very special person.
He says hes gonna pop the question at any time and i would marry him but, is he serious? tell me
2007-05-28 03:29:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
love is love
but....why not just move to where you two would live, find a job, and move in with each other first. even if you knew each other as kids and have been talking over the phone, you might not like being with him on a 24/7 basis. my wife and i lived together for about 3 years before we got married and you wouldn't believe the fights we had! things like the coffee mugs belong in the cabinet over the microwave vs over the sink and jeans should be washed by themselves not other darks because they are too heavy to dry with other clothes. or even if silverware handles should be up or down in a dishwasher. (up so go grab clean handles not the part you put in your mouth) so i think living together might be the answer you're looking for. good luck!
2007-05-28 05:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by brody1523 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really isn't serious, he just wants to keep a girl in every port. Fact is the attraction is strong but the two of you have not spent enough time together to really be in love. You sure don't know enough of each other to get married, you would just be asking for a divorce within a couple of years.
No what he is back home, cut down on the contact and see how he reacts. If he starts to worry and get clingy, dump him fast. If he starts to figure out how to see you again, then you can talk after the next visit.
2007-05-28 10:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be serious about this, but he might be so head over heels that he cant think straight. You two have to spend time together to know if this is a real relationship, and not just some fantasy. And you need to let the relationship develop into more than just infatuation. If I were you, I wouldnt marry him this soon into the relationship.
2007-05-28 13:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One needs to move to where the other one is. No shacking up(living together), no sex until marriage. Date a year or so while living near each other. Then you can truly know whether or not you want to get married to each other. That's what my husband and I did. I moved to be near him. We never lived together, and didn't have sex until our wedding night. We dated a year and a half before we got married.
2007-05-28 14:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think saying "yes" without being close to someone for a long period of time would be the right thing to do. There are habits, morals, etc. that sometimes begin to conflict once you spend soo much time with someone. I lived with my husband for two years before we were married, it was hard getting used to someone else's habits in MY household! I would think twice.
2007-05-28 10:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by slimsgirl99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to take this relationship one step at a time and marriage is not the next step. if you love eachother then try being with eachother. move in together. the truth is one of you has got to make the sacrafice of moving to another country now the relationship is ready to move on. but don't rush things. one step at a time
2007-05-28 10:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can never know for sure if he's serious...until he asks, of course. Long-distance relationships can be very difficult, but as long as you keep the communication open it will work out in the end.
2007-05-31 14:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is sirious, I mean he contacted after 12 or 13 years....the only way you could find out is by asking him
2007-05-28 10:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one here can tell you that. You need to evaluate whether or not you are ready for marriage, and whether or not he is the right guy for you. It is better to hurt his feelings now.
2007-05-28 10:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love with him then take him at his word and go from there.
2007-05-28 16:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋