Well, i have been going out with this boy for about 2 years and it just seems that i keep catching him lie to me, well it is about little things but it is still annoying. He always tells me that he doesnt watch porn, but it always pops up on the computer, or if i say something about him watching it he will get all offended. Also he wont let me go on his computer unless he is right there. It doesnt bother me if he watches it, i just dont want him to lie to me. Also he lies about stupid little things. I just dont know what to do. Next year he is going to be leaving for college, so am i supose to trust him?
2007-05-28 03:21:13 · 18 answers · asked by Lax Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't trust him, a chronic liar can't help himself and it usually gets worse with age.
Try to get some help for him and if he won't go, you need to let go.
2007-05-28 03:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you guys have been together for 2 years and he can't even admitt to you that he watches porn id say that you cant trust him! He should be able to tell you that kinda stuff especially after 2 years! I know that its probably hard because you guys have been together for so long, but it sounds to me that hes frustrating you and maybe its a good thing hes goin away to college because it will give you time to get away from him a little and see how you feel without him. Remember theres always somebody out there that wont lie to you or will treat you better then somebody who doesnt give you everything you want! Good luck!
2007-05-28 03:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kablina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your gut feeling telling you? I think you already lost trust in him, and he is right there, how will you feel when he is so far away?? I don't know, maybe I am being too cynical, but after being bitten so many times, I just hate to drag things out just to find out I should have finished with it from the start and then get mad for wasting all my time on someone who doesn't deserve me in the first place. 2 years are not short, I know, but think about it, so you won't waist another two? I always believed that things happen for a reason and that what is meant to happen will happen whether I like it or not, so don't fight your instinct go with it, and learn from the experience, Good luck.
2007-05-28 03:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by piano19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To put it bluntly, you obviously don't mind being lied to all the time, because you've been with him two years. If he lies about the little things, he'll lie about other things. He'll use this fact when he goes to college, and wants to cheat, because he knows you aren't around to watch him. He'll figure you believed his lies in the past, so you'll believe him now. He'll consider himself lucky that he has a girlfriend that doesn't trust him, but still won't leave him.
Doesn't sound so nice when you put it like that does it? Sorry, but you can't trust him. You can't trust him now when you're around to watch him, and you certainly won't be able to trust him when he goes away. I would guess you've spent two years not trusting him. Nobody should spend their life worried and anxious about their relationship. Find a guy who puts your mind at ease, no boyfriend is worth being worried all the time.
2007-05-28 03:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by Project D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is lying now and getting away with it then he will mostly likely lie in the future. All boys look at porn on the internet, I have two of them, but lying about it is just going to make you supisious and isnt it better he tell the truth. If he is going to college next year then maybe you should move on because as we all no once you get to college things definetly do change and you are not going to be part of the change.
2007-05-28 03:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porn RARELY pops up on a computer unless someone has been previously on porn sites. My guess is that he is lying.
I would call things off while he goes to college. Both of you will mature while he is away, and nothing says you can't get back together at a later time if something is meant to be.
2007-05-28 03:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by Matt G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi-I'm sorry to do this, but, yes, I would advise you to break it off. Little lies turn into bigger lies and if it's annoying now...don't expect it to get any better. You should expect some degree of privacy when you use his computer-or just go to a library and use one of theirs. And I wouldn't trust him now...let alone trust him next year when he goes to college, that's an ever bigger no. Good Luck with however you decide...
2007-05-28 03:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should trust the person ur dating and if you cant you shouldn't really be dating them(thats my opinion). If its easy for him to lie about little things it's all the easier for him to lie about big things. He's going off to college and if you dont trust some of the things he says now, its gonna be a big headache for you trying to validate everything he says when he's away.
2007-05-28 03:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he lied for porn than imagine what other things he can lie of but look talk to him he has to be able to trust you if he still doesnt tell the truth then its from there on your cvhoice
2007-05-28 03:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by almeda_94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the exact issue with my ex boyfriend. it's a bad situation, thats how it all starts out little lies then eventually they become even bigger. i wouldn't trust him, because who know what else he has lied to you about that you don't know about. i would seriously leave before you start to care about him any more than you already do. it will only get worse. hope this helps.
2007-05-28 03:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Luna20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋