I tend to compare my life to others too much. I envy others and do not appreciate the good in my own life. I look at what is lacking and not what I do have.
I don't know how to really stop doing that.
This Memorial Day weekend, my ex-husband, his two sisters and one of the sister's kids and my daughter and her grandmother are getting together.
I am busy this weekend, but do feel sad because I am not surrounded by family like them.
I have to remind myself that if I was there with them, I would not be happy and instead would be compared to his sisters and put down. I would be ignored and told that I was not good enough compared to them.
2007-05-28 03:17:23 · 4 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You must embark on a self improvement program that is not related to envy of other people. Get yourself involved in a series of activities that you will enjoy and that will make you the kind of person you would like to be. Surround yourself with things you like and people whom you can get along with socially and you will not have time to envy someone else because there is no comparison for self esteem and personal satisfaction.
2007-05-28 03:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i too have this problem. a girl in my office is always going off to great vacations. at least 4 a year and she doesn't have to pay for them. her mother or another relative sends her and her husband plane tickets. in a few weeks her grandmother is taking them on a cruise. i am going on a one day trip with a friend on my vacation. but i love this friend we always have a lot of fun when we are together. i guess the secret is the way you look at things. you said yourself you would'nt have fun with your exes relatives. you will have a better time doing things on your own without them. envy is a waste of time. don't spend another precious moment on something so useless. go enjoy your life.
2007-05-28 10:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Diana K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will meet someone some day that you can do all of those things with, but first, get your confidence up. If you stay in this state of mind, it will be almost impossible to meet someone. Give off good vibes to people, and that is what attacts them.
2007-05-28 10:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by WE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of..dont compare your self wif others,each and every one of us is unique and special in every way,there is no need to compare wif each other.if u like challenges, train on it..later beat the other person that u envy..and dont go around be envious of others ,just be satisfied about urself,for who u r
2007-05-28 10:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by james t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋