I've met this guy on the internet. We started sending each other messages first, then began chatting recently. We also exchanged mobile numbers and text each other regularly. He's so sweet, but he only called me once, but everytime I ask him if its ok to give him a call, he always says his phone's playing up blah blah... He's already seen me on webcam but I've only seen his photo coz he said he's got no webcam. Everytime I randomly ask him to phone me (coz I want to know he's not hiding something, but I'm in doubts now) he would make excuses, and he'd say later but then wont call. Is he hiding something, should I meet him? should I trust him? what will I do, I really like him inspite of this but I'm a bit scared coz I've never done this before. Should I ask him to show himself first on cam? Sorry, got too many question, but I hope you can give me advice.
2007-05-28 03:10:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes im sorry it does sound like he is hiding something --- it may not be that he is different to his picture it may be that using a cam will show things in the background he does not want you to see --- like a family --- the phone is a worry --- if he was free then anytime is an excellent time to contact you ---- if you do chose to meet him make sure it is in a public place --- i have met ladies from online and i have done all i can to ensure that they would feel comfortable and safe --- best wishes
2007-05-28 03:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never advise anyone to meet anyone off the internet, especially if all youve seen is a picture, dont want to frighten you but usually human traffickers use the internet to capture victims and i would want this to happen to you, they promise things e.g free holiday and when at the destination steal the passport and pass the person onto someone else who then sells the traffiked person on, usually into prostitution. However if youn really want to meet this person do so with a lot of friends and dont be left alone straight away and still be very careful, if needs be carry a cigar cutter for if you get into trouble, (no doubt i have to explain what for)
2007-05-28 03:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by wierd and wounderful world of me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, dating someone from the internet is very risky. I suggest you meet him while a friend is watching - not voyeurism.
Just go to the date with a friend of yours so that your back is covered in case the guy is a creep or something you do not like.
In addition, if the guy is behaving the way you say, why on earth would you want to meet with him? There is no way the guy would be honest or even is honest. Tell him it's over and find yourself a decent guy.
2007-05-28 03:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by kars01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well usually its not good to meet a guy off the interent Not anyone. and its seems like he is hiding something. Also some people don't have webcam. and that might just be honesty. but if you really want to meet him. Don't meet him alone. Go with your friends or your mom or someone older that you really trust. Also No you shouldn't trust him.
2007-05-28 03:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by bunnygrl43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be REALLY, really careful. Some of them are not who they say they are. If you insist on meeting him, take a friend and tell him you are going to do that. You do not owe him an explanation about why you are doing that. You do not have to be alone. About the cam, he could get someone else to get in front of the camera. Too many perverts out there to trust anyone.
2007-05-28 03:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by WE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful. I had a guy that I met on the internet and he really did turn out to be who he said he was...but if your man's making excuses, I'd really be careful.
From what it sounds like...your man's either afraid of commitment or he's a fake.
Look...
Won't call....
No pictures (or only one)
Constantly making excuses....
Just be safe and don't meet the guy at all. Even if he IS who he says he is, he already has issues with your relationship.
End it now. PLEASE TAKE MY ADVICE. I'd hate to see you get hurt.
If you DO decide to meet him...don't do it secretly. I don't care, take your best friend with you. That way you won't be in a bad situation. If he demands he wants to meet you alone...don't go at all.
2007-05-28 03:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt do that no matter how much you trusted the person. If you think you should I would ask him to meet you somewhere and hide out and wait for him. Dont let him see you. Call him when you think you see him and make sure its the right person. Dont get yourself into a situation you cant handle.
2007-05-28 03:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by !!engaged&underage*HAPPY*!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a guy on the internet and just like you I had my doubts and was nervous. He agreed to meet me halfway between our two states. trust me, go with your gut. If you feel he is hiding something most likely he is. Good Luck!
2007-05-28 03:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't want to waste your time...some people just don't like talking on the phone and prefer IM. Just say that if you two are going to have a relationship that you need him to be straight up with you. If he says he'll call then he should call. Don't make empty promises.
2007-05-28 03:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Phil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes hiding something,youre smart about being cautious,if you do meet him,make sure you take along a friend ,good luck
2007-05-28 03:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by dwayne t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋