How can some men/women have a child with someone and have nothing to do with them??

Question

My X wanted to have a child so badly and after he was born did nothing with him or for him, while he was growing up. But for some reason thinks he was a great Dad.

Now that my son is 21, he has told his Dad to say out of his life because of his actions or lack of them, this is so sad because he's missing a great person!!!

As for being a part of this mess I did everything to put them together and tried not to let my son choose this,but If this helps.... My X is on Wife #4 and has rejected his other child, she also wants nothing to do with him.

Answer 1

It is because he is a selfish jerk and he is deluding himself because that is what he wants to believe.

Answer 2

There are a 1000 answers you can get to this question and all would have a ring of truth from the perspective of the person answering you , however there are not a 1000 people who had a hand in this, it was only 3 people, your childs father, the child and you, when the question came out , I see the actions of the child mentioned, I see the perspective of the father mentioned, but I see no mention of you, what was your role in this matter? and please dont say nothing, for as the great song "Free will" says, if you choose not to decide you still have made a choice, :) it is obvious the whole situation is sad and a loss for all of you. but now as I have said many times, now even Grand Children will feel the loss of their Grand Father and deal with the bitterness that will find its way into their lives from their Grand mother and yes even their Father. YOU HAVE TO HAVE SOME SERIOUS ISSUES to banish a parent from your life, If THIS FATHER DID NOT PHYSICALLY ABUSE HIM, MOLEST THE CHILD, for him to react that way as an adult, I am concerned that he lacks empathy, you as an adult understand that things can happen in life that may cause you to do or experience things that you otherwise may not have done, such as be an absent parent. Your son is only 21, the average life expectancy now is about 70 years, that means your son has atleast 40 years to forgive and learn about his Father and allow the intent of God to exist in your blood line, Abaham,Issaac and jacob. without that mindset we are cheating future people out of their birth right, which is the right to look back and know from whom they come, so in closing, if you know in your heart you did not play a part in creating this sad situation with your actions or your mouth, please dont be a spectator at a train wreck, get in there and save the victims of the wreck, and guess what? That means saving your "Baby Daddy" too, help them work this out and let your son know , always leave room for a human being to grow, the only thing that should stop personal growth is death, his father is not dead, but treating him like he is dead is worse than death and I say to you, nobody who is a parent deserves that, nobody.

Answer 3

I wonder this same thing all the time. It's amazing how people can create a child and then want nothing to do with them. They're selfish and immature...and out of everyone...they're the only ones who are really missing out the most. It's something they'll have to live with and deal with. Eventually they'll regret it all.

Answer 4

My ex. has seen the 4 kids 3 times.in 27mos.,He hasn't paid any support. On his myspace he claims to be a proud parent.
They put their seed out there like they did something special . No one gives books on how to be a great parent,so the kids suffer. I know w/time the children figure out who is a good parent and not so good.
God Bless

Answer 5

Wow... that's terrible, for the kid..... these days, some parents think they can have em' but not be responsible for them, and what's with the "was" a great dad... I would tell him he either has to be a full time father... or not at all!!!!!