... don't let you to be with your frnds (especially male) above that he say he love &caresfor you. Will you be with him even if he is not giving you to be youself & takes all decision about your life, career, etc. himself?
2007-05-28 03:00:25 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sound like this may turn out to be an abusive situation when and if you decide to assert your Independence. Lose him or submit to his Bull$hit
those are the choices
oh and if you break up
chances are he may turn into a stalker so
be warned!!! and let friends and family know when and if its over so that they can lend you the support you will need to deal with his emotional roller coaster
good luck! and hopefully for you
good riddance!!!
2007-06-04 16:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by redseagoddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the best advise i can give.. hope it helps you make a decision. Hopefully you are still in a fairly new relationship (under about 1 year). You can only come righ with this if you get seperated from him & give him the reason exactly why you are doing it. Now hang on there.. let me finish.. Yes he will grobble & promise to change or you will end up having a fight but you need to be headstrong & follow through no matter what.. then after a few weeks of him feeling the sting of not being with you he will come back & he would have learned from it. If you dont do this, you may end up like you mentioned.. having him decide on your life, career, etc for the rest of your time together
2007-05-28 03:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Claude 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Domestic Violence is not about caring and loving the person. It is about power and control. Your partner is too obsessed with his own unfortunate life so he concentrates on you because he is afraid of his own inadequacies and he is afraid you will leave him. Warning signs for some abusers are drinking heavily, doing drugs, keeping money from you, not letting you leave, he will blame you and think that you are cheating on him even if you are not. You can create a safety plan for yourself if you decide to leave. Do not tell your family where you are going to protect them from him, if they don't know anything, they can't be hurt either. Take a change of clothes and anything that links you to money and your real name. SS card, License, bank account numbers, your kid's SS cards, employment stubs. Keep money out of your car and home and find a different place to hide it away from your BF. To get more information you can go to www.ndvh.org or call the national hotline 1-800-799-SAFE. There are confidential safe shelters in every county of the US to help you get back on your feet and safe up money for a place on your own. They have support groups and other helpful healing processes. I know that this seems extreme, but the cycle of domestic violence is him getting upset, "accidentally" hitting you, feeling bad and giving you flowers, and then doing it again. Every time this cycle starts again, the cycle gets quicker and quicker. DV can be sexual, physical, emotional, psychological, or financial. I hope you are safe, and good luck.
2007-05-28 03:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by J B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally no, I like my independence. But I have known a couple where it works and they have been happily married for 10 years now. I think that a little posessiveness is cute but too much is a pain in the butt. Maybe you should try talking to him about it. See what happens.
2007-05-28 03:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by silverboy470 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he love you? These things get worked out through trust . He should be involved in all your decisions. Hes your husband... This is where communication comes in.... Make your friends his friends then that won't be a problem. These things practiced honestly will let you be yourself....in all you do. Does he love YOU... ? if he does it will work.
2007-05-28 03:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not continue a relationship with him. A good relationship consists of trust to hang out with people and the ability to have your own friends. Freedom to have friends of your choosing. He is more trying to change who you are and control your every move more, mold you into his perfect partner, then be in a relationship with a person he loves.
2007-05-28 03:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be with someone like that. He is controlling and abusive. If he hasn't hit you yet, it's probably only a matter of time. Get out now!
2007-05-28 03:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, of course not. He hasn't got the right to make any choice for you, UNLESS YOU LET HIM. He is saying one thing (that he loves you), but his actions say something different. I wouldn't be with someone like that.
2007-05-28 03:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have this problem.
It's called being emotionally abusive...and could lead to physical abuse. I am already in love, so it's pretty hard for me to deal with .
Whatever you do, just don't fall in love, & get out quick!
2007-05-28 03:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by suee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well make him trust you and tell him that even if you are with any of your friends ,he is not going to loose you to them ,you just can't live life as he tells you even if he loves you like crazy.even your mom loves you and might tell you to stay away from various
things but you don't listen to all that she says now do you
2007-05-28 03:05:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋