She wants to put me in family photo's. We have dated coming up on 6 yrs and he clearly is not interested in a marriage or future with me. I do not want myself in the family photo's.
How can I get her to knock it off?
2007-05-28 02:01:44 · 9 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The whole family clearly wants him back with his ex who has moved on and re married. They all spent the week end at her house which I think is just nuts. No room there for anyone new. Everyone is living in the past.
2007-05-28 02:12:49 · update #1
He asked me to marry him 5 yrs ago and backed out when his ex wife threw a fit and cried. He wants me to be friends with her.
2007-05-28 02:21:13 · update #2
6 YEARS ! wow he must be real good to keep you on the horse like that or you just have real low self esteem ! 6 years and your hanging around but not wanting to be part of the family ? 6 years and your what to good for that ? How selfish of you ! I think shes entitled to want a daughter in law after guess what 6 YEARS !!
Quite or commit baby ! and why not enjoy a few family snap shots, she likes you enough to include you, the opposite would be far far worse ! 6 YEARS !!!
2007-05-28 02:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man's mother is one of the pains that comes along with having a man. If you take another look at this, though...it looks like his mom is wanting YOU in the family whether he is stepping up and making it happen or not. The only way she can make you a part of the family is to have you in the pictures and to invite you to family events. I would bet that mom and her dear son have had more than one fight about what he is waiting on when you guys have dated for 6 years already.....she's wanting him to settle down and start giving her grandchildren. She may be your best ally if you want to marry him. If you do not want to be a part of that family, it's time for you to move on. It's going to hurt her when you leave if she is wanting you in photos and claiming you as a part of her family. Now, if you don't see it the way that I have...you can always offer to "take the picture" for the family if it is with a family camera. Let them know that you think the "family" only should be in photos. You can also tell her privately.....and tell the boyfriend.
2007-05-28 09:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by DinahLynne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
consider yourself lucky. My husband's sister in law thinks nothing of excluding me from family photos. she did when we were not married and still that we've been married for 8 years. face it after 6 years even though you are not married, she looks at you as part of the family.
You do realize that even though you do not consider yourself as a part of his family and you don't want to be in the pictures you are at the function or what ever you would call it and his mother obviously wants to keep you as part of the memory. Get over yourself or start offereing to take the picture. These are only photos of the memory not a life long committment. Wanting a future with you or not has nothing to do with photos. By the way has he actual told you he's not interested in a future with you?
after reading your additional info..sounds like its you with the problem not his family. My goodness, my husband's family still hears and sees the ex-spouses doesn't bother me. Get over yourself.
2007-05-28 09:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not interested in a serious relationship with you- why are you wasting your life with him?
A good friend of mine strung along with a man for 8 years hoping he would come around because he held out the possibility of him changing his mind. When she was in her thirties, he left her for a 20yr old girl and now she is infertile and living on SSI after a mental breakdown.
If you don't want in the pictures- get out of the family or stop visiting with them. If you guys are nothing more then a long term booty call then you shouldn't be meeting his family anyway.
2007-05-28 09:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. Even if there's no future, 6 years is a long time, and you are part of their family life. She sees you as family. I would just let her be. Your need to have him make a commitment to you shouldn't let you ruin a good relationship with his mother and family. Be patient.
2007-05-28 09:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by oisian88 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Either tell her you're not comfortable with it, or stop dating your boyfriend. Come on, six years and you know he doesn't want a future with you? That sucks.
2007-05-28 09:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by LibraT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy. Dump the guy and move on. What are you waiting around for, or are you afraid of commitment too?
2007-05-28 09:06:29 · answer #7 · answered by schmitz48 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont know if you agree with me on this im just saying what I would say " You keep taking my got Da** picture you see me every-mother-F***ing day okay leeave me the hell alonewould you like if I keep taking your picture(then snatch the camera out of her hand and keep flashing it in her face) its a waist of your da** money when I break up with your son what the hell you going to do burn them STOP!!! Please
2007-05-28 09:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by lilbum94 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable, and you would rather not.
2007-05-28 09:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋