Went out with this women for four/five this months.
Most of the time her emotions were pretty mixed up due to her father dying the previous July. I never put her under any pressure for anything and tried to understand her grief but in the end our dates were affected by her sense of loss and me trying to understand her mixed messages and mood swings.
We were supposed to meet last Wednesday after six weeks but she cancelled due her being ill, which, even though I am a pretty sceptacle person, believe to be true because her stress always made her a little ill in one way or another.
Anyway I get a text on Saturday night asking me what I was up to over the weekend, I just said I was chilling after a long week. She text back to say she was doing the same.
So was she just bored? Looking for me to suggest something? as she is pretty backwards in coming forwards, or just checking to see if I was out with somebody else?
I'd really like to see her again, what to do?
2007-05-28 01:41:40 · 12 answers · asked by crazy fool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would try and give you advise by saying just be honest but i am THE WORST person for relationships so best not listen to me!
2007-05-28 01:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know what you are going to do, I imagine the question is how.
I suggest you contact her and ask her to meet you somewhere low key ie the cafe in the park, your local pool or somewhere similar. Not a restaurant or a "date" sort of place. Make it short notice so she doesn't have time to get ill. Ask her if she's feeling any better. Let her know that you are sympathetic to her grief, but play it cool (It takes two years to recover, if that's the right word, from a bereavement.) Ask her out again to a similar thing that might be going on in your area, give her time and see how it developes
2007-05-28 01:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by proud walker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knwo its soudns cruel but i think you should drop it! see if u are going through a big emotional ordeal i think u should cope with it on ur own otherwise if u cope with it with someone u will rely on that person for life and cna u really imagine spending ur life sorting ehr out all the time??? personally i woiuld move on and put her down gently jsut say you want to chill this weekend as you have been really busy! and teh chances are she only wants to see u to get attention and make her feel good! let her build up her emtioanl state on her own after all you havent known her long you hsouldnt be her night in shining armour not yet ne way! If in a while shecan prove she is emotionally stable and u both still liem eachotehr go for it but now! i think you should let her get through this on her own! she has friends and fmaily to help her she doesnt need you the new bloke on the scene!
2007-05-28 01:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by Kylie M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been doing too much thinking, because you don't want to make mistakes!?. Don't be afraid, without mistakes we'll never learn. She will respect you for acting on your ideas even if it isn't perfect.
If you think a lot and don't act on it -she will think you are weak and move on. Women like to be lead. Her job is act interested, onus is on you to suggest something -in other words, lead.
Be confident and ask, don't act desperate. Don't be creepy or weird. Suggest an activity (that she might enjoy) with - If you don't turn up, i'll have fun anyway -attitude.
Ask just once, If she dosen't join you : move on and date other people.
Your feelings may change or even she might change her feeling towards you.
2007-05-28 01:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by King S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since she'd been through a lot, she probably needed time. so maybe she's ready to come back to you.
and if you're still unsure if she's not doing ok or just bored, don't respond by wanting her back and go rushing into a relationship again. give her more time, see how she's really doing. or just be her friend till things are steady
2007-05-28 01:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it all depends if you really like her. how long did your relationship last? i think you have to give her a little time and space due to her father's death. maybe she texted you because she was feeling lonely and in need of a friend.... just hang out and see how it goes
2007-05-28 01:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by einah1422 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,you need to cut the string she's got you dangling on....Find yourself a girl that wants to be with you,not play head games with you.Life's too short to play games,and you could waste the next five years playing her games,or have five years of happiness with someone you deserve.Good luckxxx
2007-05-28 01:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by glitter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...she's got her claws in ya. haha I would say this girl doesn't want to let go. So if you want to see her again, call and ask. If she is backward then you have to be forward...simple as that.
2007-05-28 01:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by Dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to go out. Nothing wrong with that. Sounds like maybe she just wants to know whats up with you.
2007-05-28 01:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just text see how her weekend went then suggest coffee or something tell her you both doing nothing does she want to come round
2007-05-28 01:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋