have you ever spank your daughter?

Question

well my daughter brought home her report card home and i told her last time if she had a bad one I was gonna spank her so i brought her upstairs and told her to go stand in my room so i went and grab the flat bottom shoe put her over the knee and spank with the shoe

Answer 1

I don't have kids but I will hit them if they don't listen in school and they'll get hit in school for not doing their work in class.

Answer 2

I think maybe spanking wasn't the best option. You could try getting a tutor for her. Depending on what grade she is in, the school might provide the tutor. As far as the punishment, I think spanking with a shoe was a little excessive. Grounding or taking away things or making her study more would be better than spanking especially with a shoe. Maybe she doesn't understand the lessons or maybe she has a learning disability...

Answer 3

Well, that is a touchy question now-a-days. I was spanked and needed it. Today if you spank someone you can go to jail. I still believe in a good old spanking, if I had kids I would, when it is truly needed. Not for every little thing. I wouldn't use anything to spank with, just my flat opened hand. You don't have to hit hard either. My sister got spanked for burying silver dollars as she tried to see if money was going to grow. I don't know that I would have spanked her, I would have made her go and get it all. Spanking is for more serious things and disobedience of more of a certain nature. If the kids are fighting and can't resolve it among themselves, and continue to fight with you telling them to stop and redirecting them doesn't work, then a spanking is necessary. Or if your child bites other children, that kind of thing. Stealing, I would make them take it back and pay for it. There are lots of options.

You should always follow through with what you say you are going to do as punishment. Maybe you should have her get a tudor and try to help her with her weaker areas. Spanking when not doing well in school won't help. She needs more help to get her grades up and positive reinforcement.

Answer 4

If you told her that you would spank her, she knew and you followed through with your word. However, do you think this is the best that she can do? Is she just not trying hard enough? If she is/was trying her best, well, that wasn't a good reason to spank. Now if she was goofing off, well that's another story. We all know that many people nowadays don't believe in spanking. I use it as a last resort and for a report card, I would have probably not spanked; most likely I would have taken away privileges.

Answer 5

My opinion...spanking should be used only as a last resort for activity that would bring danger to a child, like touching a hot stove or running in the street. An open hand on the backside will work, you aren't looking for pain here, the message will speak for itself. Spanking for a bad report card? Not going to give you the results you are looking for. The more you spank, the less effective it becomes. Children mostly want your approval. Reinforce good behavior with praise. Think of other non-violent ways like time-outs or restricting computer time, etc. to show disapproval for non-dangerous behavior.

Answer 6

There is absolutely nothing wrong with spanking your child but with a shoe that is odd. Also was her report card bad because of grades or was it because of behavior. If she had bad grades that is not the way to handle it. Especially if she was trying her best. If it is bad grades you need to sit down with her and her homework and help her and figure out where she is struggling.

Answer 7

I have spanked my children but NEVER for bad grades. I always told them to do the best they could. You can't punish a child for doing their best. If she was in an older grade and just goofing off, then perhaps grounding or taking away an activity might be effective. But I don't agree with spanking for bad grades. WOuld we want to be hit if we messed up on our job and was trying our hardest?

Answer 8

first of all you shouldnt plan on the punishment you are gonna give your child.how do you know she isnt having trouble in some classes?how do you know she doesnt understand somethings or she isnt trying her best?I dont agree with spanking becasue i was abused when i was younger.I would just ground her or take away something she loves for awhile.maybe the tv or radio or cell phone if you think that has something to do with her failing grades.

Answer 9

I believe very much that children should get punished with spankings. When growing up it was never very effective for my parents to ground me or take something away because I always found a way to entertain myself so in the end they ended up having to spank me and I am glad they did because now im not a spoiled brat that walks all over my parents like todays kids.

Answer 10

well I don't think a bad report card deserves a spanking, especially with a shoe.....do you deserve a spanking every time you made a bad decision or didn't learn something quickly....you need bent over and spanked....shame on you, instead of punishing her, help her, try and find out what the problem is....instead of spanking her, there are other methods to deal with this...

Answer 11

My parents used to spank me all the time (both mom and dad). My mom used to spank me for everything from doing bad in school, to acting crazy in public. My dad used to spank me more for sitting wrong in a dress, or skirt. He would pop me on my legs often for something like that. As long as you didnt' get some sort of strange feeling or satisfaction from spanking your daughter, then you have nothing to be upset for.