Ive been seeing this girl for the past 2 months, she loves me but i dont love her. I would prefer us to go back to how we were afew months ago as friends but am worried that if i tell her i want to break up and just be friends she'll be devistated. Im just fed up with the fact she wont come over to my house, everytime she wants to see me i have to go there, she doesnt like films, i love them, she doesnt like ne sports or excersise, im very active. Were just not ment for each other. How do i break up with her nicely without hurting her too much?
2007-05-27 23:31:33 · 30 answers · asked by grezzor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just send a text, trust me it saves a lot of aggravation
2007-05-27 23:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be honest with her and tell her you want to go back to the way things were. I've been where you are. Things worked out and to this day we are pretty good friends with different interests. It's not the end of the world, she'll either accept you as her friend or not, let her make that choice. You have to do what you feel is right in your heart. Also, you should tell her this news her face, not e-mail or text, that would be like a slap in the face, very insensitive. Good luck!
2007-05-28 06:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Pea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's going to be devastated whatever you do, so bear that in mind. Avoid saying things like "It's not you, it's me" or "We can still be friends". Make sure you know exactly what you want to say beforehand, and make sure it's considerate towards her, then tell her the absolute truth. Otherwise, try talking to her about your problems and perhaps your relationship could be salvaged. Or at least talking about your problems would be an opening to the break up. Good luck.
2007-05-28 06:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by lauren_1992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain all the things you've just said above to her,tell her you don't want to hurt her and by letting the relationship carry on thats exactly what you would be doing. Tell her your willing to give her some space to get over it in the hope that ye can be friends, thats all you can do really, then sit back and see what happens,whatever you do be honest and don't give her any false hope. Good luck!
2007-05-28 06:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never say "just wanna be friends" or "i wish it was like how it was BEFORE"
honesty is good, but be gentle with her feelings. I mean, two months is a short time to be "in love" but it happens. Being in love would be loving her for the fact she does not like sports or movies or the things you do. Dig deep and if you don't want to be with her, tell her soon. Don't prolong it.
Good luck
2007-05-28 06:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much say what you just did, in a nice tone of course. Your reasons of being opposites and not compatible are valid reasons. She may be mad at first but should eventually get over it if she is mature enough. If not, then get another friend. She was just not right for you and life is too short to settle.
2007-05-28 06:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you are getting out of shape, and need to start spending more time in the gym, etc. Tell her that you know that it will not be fair to her, because you will hardly ever have time to see her. Tell her that it is probably best that the two of you split, so that she will be able to go out and enjoy herself rather than sit around and wait for you. Tell her that in the meantime, you would like to still be friends.
2007-05-28 06:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no nice way, she probably be hurt however you do it.
Be honest with her, and don't expect too much back. It will probably be too hard to go back to being friends, certainly initially, so respect the fact that she might not want that. Then let her go.
2007-05-28 06:37:20 · answer #8 · answered by Cally 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Self preservation is the key here. Think of yourself. Its never going to work because your just not compatible. She'll get over it a lot quicker if you end the relationship as quickly as possible. I recommend dumping her by text and save yourself the embarrassment of seeing her upset.
2007-05-28 06:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by oldpinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres no such thing as a "nice break up"
all break ups hurt and are hard no matter if you had feelings for them or not
You have just got to be honest with her,basically explain the things you feel that are wrong with her. she will be upset but you cant expect her not to be!!
2007-05-28 06:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry - don't see what your problem is. You don't appear to have much of a relationship unless you do all the running around. Stop calling. Stop seeing her. Get on with your life and if she calls explain what you have been doing.
2007-05-28 09:46:17 · answer #11 · answered by Nora B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋