Another girl???Advice Plz?

Question

Should i be mad???
My BF is on the phone with me and he is also on his cell phone talking to his cousins cousin...in another language and she's a slut...and she wants him. I'm finding it hard not to be mad or annoyed but he has not even said a word to me in 7 min!!! Please help..i need advice...i never really get mad or Jealous...but i'm annoyed.

Answer 1

In my opinion, a cell phone is for your own convenience and not for other peoples. If you were talking to your boyfriend first, and not her..... then he should never have answered his cell.. Its a simple matter of respect. Its rude to answer your cell at a dinner table/in a theater and many other places. He shouldn't be talking on his cell while on the phone to you. If you were talking to him and your cell rang... would you answer it. Or would he be the most important thing to you at that time and therefore make any other calls coming in an inconvenience to you? I would be angry if the relationship is meant to be a special one. That sort of treatment from a partner is dumpworthy.

Answer 2

hi there.

for this, i've got some experience with my GF before. she was on the phone with another guy and in such a situation, most guy would believe that the other guy she was talking to was trying to get her attention and in turn, take her away from you.

However, i would suggest that this is put under the category of "jealousy". you are mad because you are jealous. you are annoyed because u are mad and jealous.

How do you go about dealing with such cases. There are a couple of suggestions that i could give.

a) confrontation with your guy. that's the most common solution to the problem that you have. talk to him about it. then you will be able to decide which level the love between the both of you is at.

b) ignore. Don't try this too often. i believe you will get more jealous as your thoughts are not being scattered and disturbed. so you keep thinking why he isnt replying you, why are u hearing his breath instead of his voice?

c) you can tell him this. "Please call me only when you feel like it. Also, do not call me and talk to another person"

the 1st and 3rd option is what i will always do. But preferably, "C" would be the best as you are discreetly hinting to him about the problems that have arised.

Hope this helps.
terfyo.

Answer 3

Since you never get really mad or jealous, you should tell him that you don't appreciate him talking to you & her at the same time, especially since you know that she's trying to throw him a pants party. He should respect this, since he knows that you don't do things like this often.

What he's doing is rude, regardless of who is on the other line & what their intentions are.

As far as possible cheating, listen to the sound of his voice. You can tell a lot from that. Also, if he gets mad at you, then you should definately think something's up.

Just remind him that he'll have two headed offspring if he was to sleep with his 2nd cousin. She's still closely enough related for her to be considered blood.

Answer 4

Honestly, if a guy is really into you and really wants to be with you, you'd be amazed at the attention he's willing to give you. In your case, it seems that your bf is enjoying the attention of this third party. Really, if a guy is into you and wants you, he wouldn't treat you the way your bf treated you. Actually, you shouldn't be doing anything else expect find someone better who really likes you and wants to be with you.
The problem is not with the other girl. You could have a few other girls call him up and he could happily be hopping from one to another. So you see, the problem is not anyone else, it's HIM. Why would you waste your time on some indecisive guy? You deserve better, don't you?

Answer 5

My mother often said that the devil tries to come into the soul of a believers child to test our belief. I never really understood this until my children became teenagers, but maybe the Lord is testing your faith. I would keep a candle lit and pray. I too will pray for your family. I do not know what causes this but I will do some research and see if I can find anything. How traumatic for you and your son. The Lord says we are safe with Him so I cannot imagine that you could be in harms way. May the peace of Our Lord be with you and your family remember all things are possible through Christ. Peace.

Answer 6

first of all you may have insecurity problems. its his cousin's cousin right? there has to be a branch there in the family tree. I don't think he would be hitting on her. If he hasn't talked to you in a while, simply hang up the phone. and he calls you back asking why you hung up the phone, just tell him you didn't want to interfere with their FAMILY problems, so you hung to wait for him to be done with the other phone call. its kind of rude to talk to someone on the phone and talk to someone else onthe other phone at the same time. so just hang up the phone and let them do their talking. and see how long it takes for him to realize you got off the phone. At least he'll know how you feel, with out actually telling him.

Answer 7

put him on check and let him know how you feel. If he CARES about you he'll understand; if he's trying to be a player he'll make a lame excuse, like, "shes only a friend" or something else. Word of advise, I'll speak in another language so my man wouldn't understand what i was saying, because obviously it was bad.

Answer 8

Tell him that if he does not want to talk to you, then you will hang up and call someone that does. Tell him that this obsession that his cousin has with him must end now or you will be on your way.

Answer 9

you can do the same with him and then he will feel what you are feeling now and it's normal to feel annoyed or jelous cuz he is your bf which means that he is yours

Answer 10

He might have forgotten to put your phone down.