sometimes i feel very stressed because of studies.i worry too much about it.its not that i m a bad student,but

Question

i m always stressed about it.my parents specially my dad is too interfering when it comes to studies.its not that i dont respect him but he doesnt give me enough freedom to study and to take decisions on my own.sometimes i end up taking decisions to be a good daughter and i know i m not doing this right.i m really stressed,pls help.

Answer 1

every kid goes through this...but sit with ur father and make it clear tell him that u need to take certain and surely ul ask his suggestions...remember ul have no interest in what other people choose for u..u have to be innovative by urself

Answer 2

You sound like a sweet and wonderful girl that any father would be proud of. I don't know how old you are or what country you live in. Both of these have a bearing on my answer.

If you are 18 y/o you should be allowed to make more of the decisions in your life than if you are 14 y/o. If you live in India or somewhere near there, parents in your culture have more control over their children than they do where I live, in the USA.

Ideally, as a child gets older and more mature, and proves that they can and will make responsible decisions, the parents will allow the child to make more decisions about their life.

This being said, if you are in high school and your father is an intelligent and educated person, he should be making every decision about which subjects that you take in school. No matter what teenagers think, they don't have the life experience to make good decisions about what they should take.

It is a parent's and a father's job to prepare their child so that the child has the best and happiest future that the child can have. They do this because they love you and want the best for you.

Are your parents being too restrictive? I don't know. I do know that after your education is over that your will hopefully have about 80 years to make your own decisions. Whatever you are not allowed to do now, you will be able to do in the future; of course, you will have to experience the consequences of your actions.

I also know that there is always a tension between what a teen wants to do and what their parents think is best for them. This always causes some stress.

I could't understand part of your question. Have you made some decisions to do some things after your parents told you not to? Is it something like that that is causing the extra stress? If that's the case, ususally the best thing to do is to tell your parents and apologize to them.

If it's something that was sexual and no harm came of it, then it may be best to not tell them but to resolve to not do that again.

How else to reduse your stress? You asked another question about meditation. There is a Jewish/Christian scripture that applies in Islam, Buddhism, and Hinduism also. It is, "He is kept in perfect peace whose mind is kept on You, because he trusts in You.". This is done by sitting quietly and gently repeating the name of God over and over, ignoring all thoughts, sensations, or pictures that come into your mind.

If you do this for abot 20 minutes twice a day and whenever you feel too stressed out, you will find that you will become more and more peaceful while you are doing this, and mayby during the rest of the day also.

Answer 3

I can see that you must be trying to play the good daughter role. Don't worry about it, we all go through this phase in life wherein our parents choices and ours clash. I know I have.
It's a good thing that u respect your parents wishes, but you have your own life to live.
I would NEVER encourage you to do something rash like running away from home or to shout out angrily at your parents. But don't bottle up your emotions like this. Just sit down with your dad one of these days and speak your heart out. If he is the level headed father you know he is, he'll understand how you feel and lay off the pressure.

Answer 4

your dad does not mean anything bad. it is just that he is over protective of you. try to speak your mind to him. dont be impolite, just tell him politely that this is your war and that you have to fight it out on your own terms.dont become obsessed with your studies it is always counter productive.take frequent breaks. if not story books, write letters, poems,blogs , anything that comes to your mind. or just sit back and daydream, even that rejuvenates.try to visualise your self as the winner, recieving awards, shaking hands, making speeches, do this in your mind over and over again, like playing a record. do it with all your intensity and you will be the winner.
make studies fun too. include lots of graphs, tables and diagrams. make your own based on the data in your book, in any subject, even if not provided in the books,.use vivid colours to write or underline the main point and headings,.break all data into points, and number them for easy memorising. and first of all stop worrying. thousands have gone through exams before you and thousands shall after you

Answer 5

Hi Riya,
Do what your parents ask you to do.respect your parents.some times you will feel some irritation.but last god will reward you.

Answer 6

in my thinking urs parents is responsible for urs education, so they interfere urs study timr to time and take desicions.... in future u find tht they are absolutely right when u comlete study and start urs family life.