We have been together for almost 5 months now. We have lot's in common and we both want the same thing in a relationship. He lives about 5-6 hours away and I hate being away from him. I want to move down there and be with him. I'm just a little afraid on what my family will say. I want to be with him deeply. I love him and he loves me. Please, give me some good advice about this. I'm 23 years old. This is my FIRST real relationship with someone. Meaning, this one is real then the others I've been in. I've been hurt really bad with other guys I've been with. My boyfriend supports me all the way. He sticks up for me and protects me. He cares for me. We both cried together. We have a special bond. He makes me really happy and I make him really happy. I just hate being apart from him.
2007-05-27 21:39:54 · 18 answers · asked by Beautiful Soul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Really depends on what kinda society you are staying in. But then ..
Firstly, you say it's been 5months. That's too early to get into something this serious. I am not denying him being genuine, but last thing you want is if, God Forbid, something goes wrong .. then it should not happen such that you cannot recover. Bcoz as you say, this is a REAL relationship.
Secondly, you are afraid of what your parents will say. Goes to show, you do love and respect your parents, but you are torn by your deep affection towards your guy.
How about this - why don't you keep the cake and have it too? We all understand how much you love him, but the sky will not fall down if you don't immediately move in with him. The distance is killing you, but you know, true love stands the test of time and distance - both.
Think about it. Only you can assess your own situation best. You know your parents, you know your guy. Why hurt either party? Keep them both in good spirits. Stay with your parents, enjoy your last few years with them as their daughter before your marriage. As for your bf, if you really do love him so, I am sure marriage is on the cards, sooner or later. Right? So just wait, let time take its due course and when one day you propose the idea of marriage to him, in front of your parents, they'll be proud of you that you didn't lose track of the right path.
Would it not be so nice to have your parents see you wed that one special guy? Or would you prefer shortening the distance between the two of you now, which will give you momentary pleasure, but pain in the long run, if it hurts your parents?
You choose. Whatever you decide, good luck.In case you regret later, you have yourself to blame. But if you take the right choice, you know exactly how proud you'll be of yourself.
And oh yeah, if he really loves you, he'll wait for you.
Here's hoping for the best. Cheers!!!
Keep smiling! :)
2007-05-27 22:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by DollyBrownEyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things don't have to be said. Whats your gut feeling?? Do you think you could live together??? 7 months isn't long to move in together, but you are both adults and guess you know each other well by now. (I lived part time with ex boyfriend when I was 17 - I was too young) Maybe he is nervous to rock the boat as he is unsure what you might say, maybe if you say it to him first? Or some people are not so good with words or showing emotions but that doesnt mean anything. But 7 months is not long, could you have a casual chat with him, make a joke of it or something, nothing too heavy. Your mum is right to reservations but hopefully its all ok. Good luck
2016-05-19 21:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know 5 months really isn't that long. Someone who lives 5 to 6 hours away can look pretty good when you're wearing rose tinted glasses. It takes time to really get to know someone. Wait to see how he is during tough times. The true self will emerge. Good luck!
2007-05-27 21:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by Guy Lombardo 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Why buy the cow. Thats the simplest, truist advice anyone could give you. You'll get replies that say go for it but I'd bet 5 grand they've never had one that worked out, they just can't understand why.
2007-05-27 21:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by cindy h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a child
You are a woman
You have the right to do what ever you want and if that means taking a chance with this guy .. Do it
Its not until you live with someone do you really know if your relationship will hold up
Love at a distance is painful but you don't share responsibilities
Once you share the bills, rent or mortgage, food and work stresses together everything is JUST BEAUTIFUL
Take a chance if you really love this man and work through all the tests that will be put in your path
Good luck hold conviction in your beliefs
2007-05-27 21:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
i was 17 and moved in with my bf after being with him 5 months. 2 years later we r still together and have a beautiful baby boy whos 6 weeks old. at the end of the day if it what you want do it u sound like you got something real good going and moving in can either make it better or worse maybe you could start staying over for a few nights and build it up and see if yous can handle living together or give it a trial run.
2007-05-27 21:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by tuff chick 3 · 2⤊ 5⤋
OH MY GOD! SOMEONE PASS ME A BUCKET. should i even bother?......... if you want to be with him, be with him. if you dont, dont. I DONT KNOW HIM, so how can i give you advice? 5 MONTHS?....well it must be true love then. pack up everything, leave your family and be with your one and only true love. you may never find love again in your entire life!!! This is probably your only chance at happiness.... NOT!
He will spew after 4 weeks that his freedom is gone. He has to answer to you. put up with your emotional sobbing........ you choosing his friends for him, telling him you dont want him to go out and to stay home with you tonight......nag, nag, wear this, dont wear that- it doesnt match your shoes...i dont know? someguys like that. but most will get jack of it pretty quickly. Only YOU can answer this. it may work....it may not.
you are 23, and a female! you should have enough brains to figure it out. TAKE A CHANCE, or sit around doing 'what-ifs'? for the next 5 years. JUST DO IT. and if you are currently living with your parents...you are in for a RUDE SHOCK. Its a big, bad world out there and you need to have the mental strength to handle it. doesnt sound like you do so far.. good luck anyway.
2007-05-27 22:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by blerchus4incapet 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
for 5 months of relationship u wanna take such abig decison...hardly 23 n au r not mature enough 4 all this...consequences will not be as u xpect...
think n decide not 2 go with him n stay..u can have ar elationship that doesn't affect neither
2007-05-27 21:51:19 · answer #8 · answered by vasu 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Way too soon to think of moving in. Take your time. 5 months is a short time. Give it at least a year. Then I would start considering planning a wedding instead of shacking up. It is too easy to end up pregnant with no husband.
2007-05-27 21:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Why not try getting him to make a lifelong committment in marriage if you really think this relationship is meant to last? I am not trying to say you're wrong about your feelings for each other, but i think most relationships start out with that 'perfect mutual feeling'.
2007-05-27 21:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Ednut 1 · 5⤊ 2⤋