how should i console my best friend who just had a break up. it was her first relationship and she is missing him bad..she says she wants him back, made an attempt by calling him up again. they spoke for just 5 minutes and kept down. now she again wanna call but i said no as now he should call her. tell me what should i say to make her feel better. i was never in any relationship so dont have a clue.
2007-05-27 21:18:01 · 4 answers · asked by aint_i_hoot_madonna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she msgd her if they could forget everything n continue. he msgd back-"i dont know. we'll talk abt it when i come back". he is out of town. what does he mean by that? is he still interested?
2007-05-27 21:47:39 · update #1
You can say all the usual things - "Time heals all wounds" "There are plenty more fish in the sea" "It wasn't meant to be" "He didn't deserve someone like you"
Or you could just say "I'm here for you". Know that she's going to be upset, may snap at you, and will probably have a good cry. Just make sure she is safe, until she feels better. Be someone she can talk too. Listen to her.
2007-05-27 22:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you don't want to hear this but there really is not too much that you can say that will make her feel better. She is lucky to have a friend who cares so much about her though. The best thing you can do is listen to her and be supportive. Try to help her stay busy so she isn't sitting at home dwelling on it. You might here the same things over and over again. That is her way of dealing with it. You are correct to tell her that he should call her since she already called him once. If she keeps calling him it might scare him off for good and kill any chance that might be there.
The best thing for her to do is try to have fun and either he will notice and it will bother him that she isn't sitting at home crying or she might meet a guy who is even better than this guy is. The first break up is always the hardest, not that any of them are easy.
Best of luck to both of you. She will be fine, especially with such a good friend.
2007-05-28 04:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by imapspaddict 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can say to her to make her feel any differently about what has happened. What you could do is to ask her to go with you to places where she will get her mind off of this ex-boyfriend and get her involved in activities that will make her feel glad to be herself and happy about what she is doing in the present time. Get her mind off of the past and into the present. Help her to be a better friend to herself than she wants to be to her ex, who probably has not given her a second thought. Don't let her sit around alone and wait for him to call.
2007-05-28 04:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing you say will make her feel better,i am sorry.this is a process she has to live.of course she will miss him.but it will get better.you can keep her company.she needs to have her mind taken from him.and time will heal..
2007-05-28 04:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by pepper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋