my cousin didnt invite me to her 21st birthday party. she invited all our other cousins and relatives. would it be very petty of me to not invited her to my wedding.
2007-05-27 21:16:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
not at all mate. f*ck that! i wouldn't invite her either!
--- she wouldn't be expecting an invite anyway, so she won't be bothered :)
2007-05-28 01:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by chilly 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Kind of....it is sad she did not invite you...but would look bad on your part if you did not invite her to the wedding.......
Are you much older than her and were the other relatives closer in age....she also may have thought you were too busy with the wedding to go....or thought where you are now with someone exclusively that you would not want to go out for a 21st birthday...
Just invite her and keep peace in the family.....believe me it is easier.
2007-05-28 11:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others - be the bigger person and invite her. Do you know the reason why she didn't invite you to her birthday? My brother unfortunately can't invite one of our cousins to his wedding for the sole purpose of numbers - she has a new husband (met, engaged, married within a span of months and none of us has met him) and he can't invite one without the other. He feels awful but there's just no room. Maybe she had a reason? Anyway, if you don't invite her it will only stir up controversy and by more problem than having her there. Also, you don't need to spend loads of time with her at the wedding! Having her there will probably not ruin anything. Good luck!
2007-05-28 07:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by tink 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why she did not invite you to her party? Might it have been a mistake, or is there more that you can't tell us?
If you are inviting her parents, Aunt and/or Uncle, it would be awkward to specifically exclude her. If not, then you have more leeway.
If she is truly mad at you, she will probably ignore the invitation or decline.
I wouldn't worry about what she thinks of you. After the wedding is over you can forget about each other if that is the way it is going to be.
2007-05-28 11:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin is a dork. You, however, are a much better person. If you don't invite this person will any controversy it stirs up spoil your wedding? Your cousin is NOT worth that. Invite your cousin - that way she gets the message that she (and her dumb party) aren't important enough for you to worry about. Have a wonderful wedding and an even better marriage!
2007-05-28 04:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by The librarian 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Before I start I wanna sk you a question. Have you done something before to hurt her feelings which can cause her to not like you? Or have you (may be unintentionally) ignored her in a smaller social gathering? take your time think about it.
If it is so, you need to invite her over and attach an apology note about the thing in your invitation letter and you should tell her that" we should not let these small things dig a valley between us and cause us to get far from each other" Something like that.
Cause it is your fault after all.
But If your cousin is a sellfish person and just doesn't like you for who you are, then take this advice from me sweetheart. Never ever give a Da*n to what people think of your personal life.
If your cousine did this silly thing of not inviting you to her birthday party, she might be sendin out the "I don't like you" message.
So put it this way:
"My cousin was not smart enough to have the fun time of being with me and having me in her birthday party.She's an idiot and she doesn't deserve my company."
Now you have 2 options.
If you invite her, you will appear as a needy person and she'll think of you as someone she can put a leash on and pull any where she wants. Trust me sweetie, you'll not have fun if she comes to the party.
And if you invite her and she doesn't sow up, I bet you know how you're gonna feel.
But if you don't invite her, you are sending out an strong message.
You are saying, "I got it when you didn't invite me. I don't care if you don't like me cause I don't need such fun killin people around me."
This will let her know that you are in control of your personal life and don't want to waste your time with people you don't want. This let her know you are the one who's chosing with whom you want to spend your time.
Take it easy and don't think about her reactions much.
As I said, don't even give a DA*N!!!
I wish you a wonderful wedding and a happy life ever after!
Take care
2007-05-28 05:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by The One 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Maybe there was reason she did'nt invite you,you should find
out why she did'nt invite you. It could be a misunderstanding. Wedding are important and you don't want to regret not inviting her. So find out and if she acts funny ---don't invite her
2007-05-28 08:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by Zin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't stoop to her level. If you were originally going to invite her, then invite her. She'll just feel the like jerk for not inviting you to her party.
2007-05-28 08:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be pretty good for u to invite her.if she has some sense ot intelligence ,she will feel ashamed by ur invitation and the relations will better.
if u have some feelings for her,forget her deed and invite her.To forgive others is virtue afteral.
2007-05-28 04:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by jvjoshi2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be petty if you didn't invite her because of that.
Now, if you don't invite her because you are not close and you have a limited guest count, then that would not be petty.
2007-05-28 12:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her, it won't make much of a difference. Just make her feel guilty for not inviting you.
2007-05-28 04:23:27 · answer #11 · answered by magicspice4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋