Alright, I've been liking this girl for nearly a year now and it won't go away. I tried to date others, giving them a chance, etc. She is still on my mind. I really like this girl. We hung out in the past with others in our social group whether outside friend's places or bars. We are essentially 'acquaintances.' But the whole dilemma is, she is taken. I probably won't see her again because the semester has ended and we have parted ways. I regret telling that I like her. Should I or just let it be?
2007-05-27 19:35:06 · 16 answers · asked by Retro Rocker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We live opposite ends of the state now. Plus I never officially told her before.
2007-05-27 19:44:18 · update #1
Absolutely not! You won't gain anything, and you'll just make yourself look pathetic. It's not a dilemma either if she's got a boyfriend . . . it's just a lemma (if you will). What did you expect to happen when you tell her that you like her? She's obviously interested in the guy she's with or else she wouldn't be with him. So she isn't going to break up with him because of anything you say.
Keep dating other girls! You're bound to find one that you like. The trick is, don't compare them to that other girl. It just doesn't make sense to do that because you don't know her well enough. You're acquaintances and that's all. You'd just be imagining what a relationship with her is like and it's almost certainly better in your mind than it would be in real life. Good luck!
2007-05-27 19:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can give you three options. Which one you pick, if any, is your choice.
A) You tell her how you feel. She might feel awkward around you, or hate you. But that's the risk we always take, now isn't it? Besides, you probably won't see each other again, so all you'd have is the knowledge that you told her. On the other hand, she might not be freaked out.
B) You get to know her better. Maybe go and see a movie someday. Get lunch together, or something. When she becomes single again, fair game, right? A bit underhanded, but you might find that being friends with her removes the crush, which is a pretty good result too!
C) You don't tell her, and let her go. As hard as it may be, she's in a relationship and would probably find it awkward if you told her. I don't even think I need to explain why this is a bad option...
Well my friend, I've given you the options (excluding stalking and such ;) ). Now you can choose your path! Were it me, I'd go for option B. Good luck!
EDIT: I'm sure I don't have to mention this... But don't try and break up her relationship! VERY BAD IDEA!
2007-05-27 19:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Enigmatarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on just how much you like her and what kind of history you have together. If she is in a serious relationship, I would be reluctant to tell her. Perhaps try and keep the friendship alive by emails or meeting for coffee, invites to parties or gatherings with your usualy group of friends, and see what happens. You never know, somebody more special might come along, and you dont want to miss out on better possabilities.
2007-05-27 19:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by nat37x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well lemme see. this girl is taken which means shes not interested in you, which means you dont have a chance, which means your not going to end up with her. u must understand that she has a bf for a reason k. mmmmkaaay?? lol. sorry to be shady but telling her you like her out of the blue wont make her fall in love with u.
2007-05-27 19:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by Help <3 Wanted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go ahead and tell her that you like her. Whether she likes you or not-it may help you to get it off of your chest. You don't want to go through life wondering "what if"? Also, you never know....she may feel the same way about you. What do you have to lose if you might not see her again next semester?
2007-05-27 19:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Heeheheehee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, just leave it alone. If you've already told her that you like her, and she has a man. Besides in due time you'll most likely forget about her.
2007-05-27 19:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by watersign 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are going in this with the possibility of rejection
and i wouldn't recommend this, its not fair to tell a taken woman, that you are feeling her, and expect her to handle it a certain way, i just say wait for him to slip up...or you can just start moving on.
2007-05-27 19:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by dall4wwf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and let her know, if you dont you will forever feel like you should have told her so go ahead and get if off your mind, who knows, she may feels the same about you
2007-05-27 19:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be patient. If it is meant to be, then you will see again. If she is still taken, and happy, you should leave well enough alone.
2007-05-27 19:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by termcd4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But I would suggest giving her a card, confess with some humor..
The humor would help if she gets awkward once she knows you had something for her..
2007-05-27 19:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by sweetashess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋