Ladies, how do you deal with a man who finishes within 3 minutes? I recently started dating a guy who does this and it repulses me. He makes me not even want to have sex. I have an extremely high sex drive but if its only going to be for 3 minutes, why bother.?
2007-05-27 18:07:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, he tries the 3 hour foreplay but i want penetration dammit!lol I like foreplay but it cannot take the place of real sex.
2007-05-27 18:42:45 · update #1
I did speak to him about it and he told me that he was told that he was NORMAL. ANd that the average man does it in 5 minutes. Now I'm 30 years old and yes I've had my fair share of men, but never have I ever had a man who lasted less than 20 minutes. If they didnt, they came back 15 minutes later. THis guy is done for the night after his 3 minutes, hes 30 also.
2007-05-27 18:45:28 · update #2
it could be that you stimulate him so much that he is out of control.
if you were able to hang out with some of my buddies, they could explain how you might bust a nut before you put a wrench on it. ask some of the girls.
also, pre-mature is a well know problem for many men.
discuss it with him. ask him prepare you more carefully before attempting.
if he could talk to some of the old guys they would tell him to eat it till you fall out (yes fall asleep).
many ways to fix a wagon red over over heated oven.
sometimes women can lose with the stuff the pack. yes, some women have powerful stuff. it is true, it could be you.
2007-05-27 18:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by ramni222 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2014-09-29 08:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey... that is just terrible! Some guys do that for lack of experience, you know? So maybe he's just not had a lot of women or he's just really excited. But, I'm with you... why even bother for 3 minutes? Not even worth taking your clothes off! LOL
2007-05-27 18:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by CC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Applause to you for even staying in it this long.. That would annoy the hell out of me.. Ever sit him down and ask him why he does it? Or, possibly suggest that he take it slower next time? I'm sure as women we'd love to believe that our "stuff" is just that good that men can't control themselves.. but usually that's not the ONLY reason lmao.. Maybe he just gets too excited and can't control himself. For his sake, he better learn to. If the suggestions above don't help him.. MOVE ON.
2007-05-27 18:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Christine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he were properly stimulating you before he penetrated you, you would be ready in 3 minutes too! Tell him that if he is going to go to the races, he had better take care of his car first!!!
2007-05-27 18:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a couple drinks before you havfe sex.. like hard drinks.. not too much alcohol though because then it could hurt his performance.. he should last a lot longer.. when I have Nyquil when I am sick I can go literally all night.. as a last resort you could try that..
2007-05-27 18:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can stop him from finishing too quick but if you have a why bother attitude why not just get rid of him and find a new guy?
2007-05-27 18:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have him see a doctor and there are creams and things out there to make him less sensitive. He may just be very sensitive in that area and gets excited too easily.
2007-05-27 18:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by bluevr6streak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's only thinking about himself, I think why bother is a good question to ask.
If the sex is more than just intercourse to you..if it's a connection you have to him (which i pick up that it's not..then, I say there's no reason to bother at all..)
2007-05-27 18:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by shireennyc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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A guy always cums fast when its their first time. and especially if he's been waiting for a long time. Guys are erect at least 5 times a day so what I would do is some foreplay until he ejaculates or the both of you for that matter its not fair that he has orgasms and you don't so get him to do you first and then once you finish he will be more than ready for his orgasm. then use a condom because that cuts down the sensations for him if he feels he is about to come prematurely then tell him to come out and do some more foreplay on you so he has time to calm down. the condom should work but if you want a baby tell him to take the condom of before ejaculation and then finish in you. the longer you wait to make him come with foreplay the quiker it will be because he has to get it out of him.
He also does need time because you are the only one he has been with so once he gets used to it, you can really enjoy it once he gets his techniques down pat. Tell him what you like. Get some books and videos also until you both are experienced. Or you could even have a quickie in the morning, when you get home and then at night. he will diffently last longer because his mind has been free twice already. You get on top of him and you control the situation. Also my boyfriend tells me that he thinks about none sexual things for a while to help control him, tell him to think about a sport or something that calms him. If that doesn't work then just do IT over until you are satisfied
2017-02-17 13:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋